Things I Can’t Get Enough of Lately V

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Every so often I like to do a post of all the things I’ve been loving lately. Just to see what you all are watching, reading, snacking on, etc. and to see if I can interest you in any of the things that I’ve been enjoying. I have made a point to limit the educational content I’m consuming this summer and have really been letting myself experience content just for entertainment in July. Here are the things I’ve been loving lately.

Things I Can’t Get Enough of Lately V

Claws

I don’t exactly remember when I saw the trailer to this show but I remember thinking that I had to check it out. Once I started watching it I was hooked. The thing that I think I love about the show so much besides the shocking twists and turns and hilarious dialogue, is this band of women who have each other’s backs. They are all a little different, they have their own struggles and identities but at the end of the day they are family and that’s what matters. Desna, played by Niecy Nash is truly an inspiration. As the matriarch of their makeshift family not only does, “Des” run the operations of the nail salon and other… not so legal operations, she takes care of her brother who is on the autism spectrum. Not everything Des does is on the up and up but she does what she has to do, which you can respect when watching her inner battles.

The Carmichael Show

So I debated adding this because right around the time I found myself falling back in love with the comedy, I found out that it wouldn’t be returning for the 4th season. The Carmichael show is based on an African American family living North Carolina. The star of the show Jerrod Carmichael approaches current events and social politics through comedy and brutal honesty. I started watching it half way through the first season and then lost track. Recently I caught up and remembered why I loved the show so much. It goes there, it talks about sexual consent, same sex marriage, the previous election, death with dignity and so much more. Not only does it tackle the important issues but it does so without being cut and dry. Very rarely does the show have every character take the same side of an argument. You hear the points both sides would make in the real world and you’re left to think about it.

Jana Ashton

Okay, we all get to have guilty pleasures sometimes and Jana Ashton has become mine. During an audible two for 1 one deal, I decided to give her book Wrong a chance. I ended up finishing it within 2 days (part of that did have to do with the fact that I had 12 hours of driving to do that weekend). I have since started my journey down the Jana Ashton series rabbit trail and am currently half way done with the second book in the series, Right and have already purchased the 3rd book, Trust.  

Full disclosure these are romance novels so there is some serious adult content. I consider myself pretty comfortable with the risque but in one scene I was listening to while washing dishes, I felt a little embarrassed…keep in mind I was home alone. This is the true definition of a guilty pleasure novel. I spend so much time reading about business and personal development it’s fun to unplug with some unrealistic romance.

The Bold Type

I was so excited about this show when I first heard about it. For 3 reasons, Katie Stevens (known from MTV’s Faking It), Aisha Dee (from the gone too soon, Chasing Life) and just the premise as a whole. Once again it’s great to see a show where women are supporting each other and chasing their dreams. It’s only 3 episodes in and they have already tackled things like the female orgasm, cyber-harassment, dating in the workplace and more. It’s a fun show that makes you want to go out and make a change.

Friends From College

Okay, so this is the great Netflix curse. A show comes out Friday morning and by Saturday morning I am sitting there with a binge hangover because I watched the entire series. I loved this show. First, it has an amazing cast, as well as amazing guest stars. Secondly, it’s hilarious! There are subtle moments you just find yourself relating to and it’s nice. I really hope it gets a second season.

Gyspy

I did not see a single trailer for this until after I started watching it. As someone who goes to therapy and is a strong believer in its benefits, I was interested in this. I think it’s the first time I’ve seen a show that deals with a therapist and her patients lives simultaneously and shows how they can affect her and not just how she affects them (I’m sure it’s been done before but I haven’t seen it). That being said she definitely crossed the line in this but I find it interesting. It’s a very conscious reminder of how our actions have ripple effects for ourselves and others.

So there you have it. The things that have been keeping me busy this summer. What are you reading and watching this summer? Have you checked out any of these? Let me know in the comments.

 

Have You Kept Your Resolutions?

I am not a fan of resolutions. I am however a fan of strategic goal planning. Each year tons of people sit down and make this long and ambitious list of all the things they want to do in the upcoming year and very few of them actually do it. My question for you today is have you reached your New Year’s resolutions yet?

Well, it’s July in the year is officially more than halfway over. By now many of us have either given up on those goals, possibly accomplished them or just decided that they weren’t the right goals for us. All of those options are totally normal and totally human but I wanted to talk to you about resolutions during a time where they are probably the furthest thing from your mind to give you some perspective.

Why People Don’t Achieve Their Resolutions

Often the reason people don’t accomplish their resolutions. The thing is resolutions tend to be more lofty goals. You figure I have a year to do this so you may reach for the stars without realizing you need a rocket to get there.
While a year is a long time, it also goes by extremely fast. That’s why you can find yourself in July no closer to your goals than you were in January. If you can’t break down your goals into actionable steps that can realistically accomplish in a year then you may want to rethink the goals.

Here are the main reasons people don’t keep their resolutions.

You don’t schedule the time.

More than likely your resolution has to do with a new activity or skill set so you need to set aside the time to accomplish it. Saying you’re going to take on two new clients a month but not making the time in your schedule isn’t very realistic. You have to set yourself up for success by setting yourself up. If your goal has some sort time requirement, like most do, you need to schedule it into your life and stick to it.

You don’t think of the expense.

Sometimes a goal requires you make an investment. It may be the money you need to hire a coach, obtain a certification, supplies, etc. If you say this year you want to visit 4 states you probably need to figure out how you’re going to pay for gas, flights, room and board. I’m all for trusting the universe but that doesn’t mean just sitting on your ass.

You do it alone.

It can be easy to get off track when the only person expecting you to accomplish your goal is you. It’s sad really but we as humans are way more likely to let ourselves down than others. Depending on the goal it may look like joining a program, getting a coach or just enlisting the support of someone with the same goal or someone with an emotional investment in you, like a friend or a partner.

No plan of action.

You know what you want to do but don’t decide how you’re going to do it. You can’t say, “I’m going to pay off my student loans this year,” and expect that to be enough. Are you going to cut out current expenses? Get a part time job and put that money towards loans only? How are you going to make it happen?

You give up too easily.

It’s February 1st. You said you’d save $500 each month but in January you were only able to say $237 so you give up and decide that’s the best you can do. Even the best plans don’t always equal success right away. Even if you don’t’ accomplish part of it keep trying. After all, you have a year.

How to come back after a failure

Let’s say you have decided to get you fitness coaching certification and start professionally training. That is an excellent goal. You’re an overachiever so you want to do the top package which is $900. Right now you live on an extremely fixed income so you have to figure out how you will pay for it. Let’s assume they offer the courses quarterly, once in March, June, September and December. Your original plan was to save the $900 dollars in January and February and sign up in March. But then life happened, you broke a finger and had to pay medical bills or miss work so you weren’t able to save the money. Instead of saying, “Oh well guess it’s not meant to be.” Figure out how you can save the money and sign up for the June class. Yeah, your schedule has changed but you can still make it happen.
Often the most successful people have had countless setbacks and failures but they are all learning curves. Maybe this way a life lesson, once you save that $900 you can start saving $450 each month to put in an emergency fund so the next time “life happens” you have a nest egg to fall back on.

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How You Should Look at Resolutions

To reflect on the things mentioned above you need to do several things when deciding your resolutions or any major goals.

  1. Make them realistic. I’m not saying shy away from bold moves but make sure they are attainable in the time given. If they don’t maybe break them up into smaller sets to accomplish the bigger task over a longer period of time.
  2. Figure out how much time you need to accomplish the tasks that make up the goal and plan accordingly.
  3. Think of any related costs and ways you can pay for them.
  4. Find support or help. Accountability is a magical thing.
  5. Create a plan of action and timetable for those actions. Decide what needs to be done, when it needs to be done and how you’re going to do it.
  6. Don’t give up. If you experience a setback don’t call it quits just reevaluate and keep moving forward.
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How to gauge your progress on goals

It’s important to gauge and track progress. If you don’t you may not know if you’re working on the right things or not. If you want to lose 5% of body fat what does that look like over time? Set up marketers to check in with so you can tell if your current methods are working or if you need to change them.

Life is short and we are all capable of amazing things. It’s so easy to give up and beat ourselves up but remember if you are bold enough to set goals you are bold enough to make them a reality.

How are your resolutions going? Have you accomplished them or are you still working towards them? If not are you going to give them a second chance and try to make them happen in the second half of the year? Let me know in the comments.

28 Questions for 28 Years

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So this upcoming weekend is my birthday. I love my birthday. I always have! The funny thing is I didn’t really celebrate it much till I was 18.  Growing up the rule in my house was you got a sweet 16 and that was pretty much it as far as parties went. I mean we would acknowledge your birthday but for the most part, we didn’t do much besides a special dinner. In my case especially my birthday always feel during a really big week long event in my church. My birthday normally meant, getting up and watching tv, having dinner then heading to church.

Back when I started my blog in 2015 I did a survey of random questions to help everyone get to know me better and as I start a new path in my business I thought it only made sense to do it again. Originally I was going to do an update and compare my original answers to now but instead, I decided to just pick 28 new ones.

What are your nicknames? What do you prefer to be called?

Dia is really the only thing I like to be called. But I will also answer to any of the following:

  • Nubian Queen
  • Cocoa Goddess
  • KeyLoLo – If you watched Martin in the 90s then you probably remember Sheneneh and Keylolo. Martin’s hot mess neighbor and her best friend. Well, my mom decided at one point that I was Keylolo and my oldest sister was Sheneneh.
  • Sweetie, Beautiful, My Dear, Princess (But only by a certain person. You know who you are. <3)

It should also be noted that I hate being called Dee! When people feel the need to shorten the 2 syllable Dia to Dee, I think 2 things. 1. Dee sounds so manly, “Pass me the rock, Dee.” 2. Am I not worthy of that second syllable to you?

What is your strongest sense? If you had to give one up, which would it be?

I think my strongest sense is taste. I’m that person with a very sensitive and picky pallet. I can also taste smells. It’s a blessing and a curse. If I had to give up one sense it would be smell. It’s the least useful in my opinion. I need to see to do a lot of the things I do, like paint. I’d hate never being able to hear music again and I love being touched by my loved ones.

What is the strangest thing you believed as a child?

I don’t know if this is the strangest but it’s the first that comes to mind. I remember being young and watching MTV. During this time MTV was running a campaign about safe sex and in one tv spot this guy was blowing up condoms like balloons. I commented about the balloons when my older sister pointed them out as condoms and without very much details explained what condoms are. My young brain assumed that condoms went around a women’s breasts during sex.

Are you high maintenance? Explain.

I think to an extent I am. I am high maintenance but I think a lot of the things I want or like that make me “high maintenance” are things I do for myself. I like to get massages and I don’t like to drink cheap vodka.  Stuff like that. I try to be pretty understanding of the people I love and accepting of their needs and wants but I also stand up for my own.

Do you prefer that people shoot straight with you or temper their words? Why?

I will be honest, I don’t have the thickest skin. I’m a huge fan of the compliment sandwich. I don’t want anyone to lie but don’t be a dick just to be a dick.

Do you have a catchphrase?

Yes! I have a few as someone who loves quotes. I think the one I use the most is, “Little by little becomes a lot.” I’m also a fan of the pop culture, “Boy bye,” and “Not today Satan.”

What are the top three qualities that draw you to someone new?

Humor, witt and honesty. I love to laugh and if you can make me laugh then I will be more receptive to you. I also love someone who isn’t just “stupid funny” but has a strategic mind with their humor. Honesty is huge for me. I’ve dealt with my fair share of liars and if someone is willing to be honest about mistakes or faults I’m more forgiving.

If you could eliminate one weakness or limitation in your life, what would it be?

The big bad insecurity monster. Like I mentioned above I don’t have the thickest skin but it’s a battle I am constantly fighting. I’d like to be less affected by the actions and opinions of others.

In what area of your life are you immature?

This is a hard one. I want to say that my obsession for watching cartoons is probably my most immature trait. If not that then the fact that I struggle with expecting the people I love and care about to return my actions. For example, if I contacted you first the last time we hung out I want you to initiate the next. It’s incredibly juvenile to want relationships (both romantic and not) to be a tit for tat type thing and I’m working on it.

When do you find yourself singing?

All the time! I love music! I sing in the shower, in the car, at the grocery store, at the gym. All the time.

How often do you laugh?

I try to laugh as much as I possibly can. I also love to make other people laugh. When I’m having a really bad day and I’m at work I find stand up videos to brighten my mood. Here is one of my favorites.

When Was The Last Time You Cried?

I cry all the time. Like seriously at least once a day. I’m a crybaby and an empath. I cried earlier because I missed someone I’m seeing in less than a week. I’ve cried at a Cheerios commercial, the movie Joe Dirt, The movie Taken and other things I’d rather not admit.

Are you double jointed?

Yes in my elbows. It’s hereditary, my mom is too.

Do You Regret Anything?

“Your regrets in life aren’t what you did in life but what you didn’t do. So take every opportunity.” This is one of my all-time favorite quotes. I do regret some of the guys I dated and fireball shots I took but I think generally every choice we make has formed who we are in the present moment for better or worse.

If you were in a car sinking in a lake, what would you do first?

Roll the windows down! This way I’d have a better chance of getting out. (Assuming the car wasn’t already fully submerged.) Because I have a tendency to worry I just Googled this and it says to take your seat belt OFF first. I feel like getting the window down first would be most important. I’d probably try to do both simultaneously… it’s not like I need my hands to steer.

Name The Thing That Annoys You The Most

As someone who is very easily annoyed this question could have 100 answers. I’m trying to focus more on things that annoy me versus thingS that enrage me. I get annoyed by people who don’t comply to social cues for no other reasons than they choose to neglect them. Like I hate when people talk to me when I have headphones on and it’s not about anything important.

Have you ever written a poem?

Yes! I was very much a poem kid in high school. I actually won a poetry competition before. I wrote my first poem in years a few months ago and remembered how therapeutic it was.

Do you like ketchup on or beside your fries?

I love Ketchup. I put it on things that make other people angry…including steak. That being said, Ketchup should always be placed next to the french fries because you don’t want them to get soggy.

Have you ever been in a car that ran out of gas?

Haha yes. It was practically a requirement that all my cars in college were POSs. I had a Chevy Caviler with a broken gas gauge. I went to Walmart one night and ran out of gas. With the help of a friend I called, we pushed it into a parking lot and went to get gas. Not a fun experience.

Have you ever played in the rain? 

Yes, it’s probably one of my fondest memories. My friend and birthday twin, Tony and I didn’t have cars the summer after my freshman year of college so we would take walks together to Mcdonalds. One summer night it started to rain right as we got back to the student apartments, instead of rushing to get inside we just decided to play in the rain. It was a beautiful experience, I felt like I was having a movie moment.

If you could invite any movie star to your home for dinner, who would it be?

It’s hard to pick just one because when I think of someone, I think of someone else that should be there with us. If I say Chris Pratt I want him to bring Anna and Jack. If I say, Amy Poehler, you know Tina Fey has to come. Rapid fire? Will Ferrell. I feel like I would laugh a lot.

Would you hang out with/date someone your best friend didn’t like?

My therapist actually asked me this recently. The truth is yes, I would. I mean of course it depends on the reasoning behind it and the severity of their conflict but at the end of the day we have to live our own lives.

What is your favorite breed of dog?

I have a huge soft spot for Labradors.

If you won a $5,000 shopping spree to any store, which store would you pick?

Can I call my apartment complex a store and just pay my rent for a few months? LOL Honestly I’m incredibly practical in matters of money and I’d want to be able to use the money for things like groceries and gas so probably HEB (it’s the grocery store in Texas where you can also buy gas).

What is your favorite season?

Hands down Fall. For 2 reasons, that’s when most of my favorite shows come back from summer hiatus and that’s when the Texas heat calms down a little bit from the 100-degree summer temperatures I hate.

Are you superstitious?

I don’t know that I’m superstitious but I do believe the universe has some kind of score card I haven’t figured out yet.

What is one lesson you hope you never forget?

That as long as you’re breathing you have another chance.

What is one thing you would tell your younger self?

Don’t date… Just kidding. I’d probably tell myself, You don’t have it all figured out and that’s okay. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

What is something you’d tell your future self?

If you’ve stopped dreaming, get back to it.

So I know some of these are silly and all of them are random but I hope you enjoyed these random question and feel like maybe you know me a little bit more.

Now check out some throwback pictures:

My first album cover

This was me getting ready for my first album cover photo shoot. I was probably around 12 here. Rocking my favorite night shirt.

Now you tell me!

  • What are you doing this weekend? I am so excited to celebrate my birthday and start a new year in my life.
  • Did you do anything for the 4th?
  • What was your best birthday ever?
  • Did you relate to any of my responses above?
  • Any questions you couldn’t answer?
  • Any questions you’d like to share your answers to?