February 2017 Goals

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Can I be honest, I am as happy to see January 2017 go as I was to see 2016 go. I’m not going to say it was a bad month but man did it feel like a long one. I hit a rough path with my Generalized Anxiety Disorder this month which in my unprofessional opinion may have been the result of a combination of stress, major change, uncertainty, antibiotics and more. This has resulted in a not so fun month but it hasn’t been all bad by any means. This is sort of a side note but I came across this article on Pinterest and as if God knew I needed to feel less alone. When you think I’m being rude, here’s what’s really going on Fiona at Fiona Likes to Blog. (P.S. How much do you love the name, Fiona?) Please feel free to check it out. I wish I could post this up at work so my coworkers understand my mood changes.  So let’s get into the review of last month.

January 2017 Goals

Objective: Launch TheBalancedSideHustle.com (this won’t be the full course, the official launch date is March 6th. I was hoping to launch February 27th, but I had family and social obligations heavily in February and wanted to give the launch and you guys my full attention).

Personal Goals

  • Read one book

I don’t know if it’s because I was sick or was feeling less social than normal I read 2 books and have started another 2. I read The Big Leap and The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl you can read more about what I thought of those books here.  

  • Purge some of my closets

Haha nope. But it was a nice thought. 

Blog and Freelance Goals

  • Continue working on Launch Your Signature Course!

As I’ve said a thousand times. I am so glad to be in this program and apart of this amazing community.

  • Finish the articles for my feature in All Things Trend Magazine!

Any day now I should get my copy of the magazine and I’m so excited. The article took a life of its own but I feel like it is one of the most honest things I’ve ever written.

  • Have 536 Facebook page likes

545! Woot! Woot!

  • Have 3148 Twitter Followers

3155!

  • Have 1115 Instagram Followers

1111. Can a girl get 4 more followers? LOL. 

  • Have 966 Pinterest Followers

968!

  • Create at least one new Resource for my Resource Library

I finally released my scripts for saying no! Check them out here. 

  • Post at least 4 times this month

Yes! Go check them out! 

  • Spend at least 10 minutes a day engaging on each of the above social media sites. That means repinning, responding to tweets of others or seeing what their links are, etc.

My feed has been very Trump heavy so I kind of slacked on some of this from lack of energy.  But I have started doing Instagram stories… I wonder if that’s why I didn’t hit my goal… do you guys not enjoy hearing me sing the hits of the 80s while sitting in my car at lunch?

  • Crush the webinar I have scheduled this month.

This was probably the best webinar I’ve done. It was so much fun and we actually had a decent conversation going with those who attended. Thank you if you joined in.

  • Do one guest post or contributor article.

Can I use the magazine article for this? LOL. I have some stuff in the works besides that just running a little behind.

Health and Fitness

  • Walk 7,000 steps a day

R.I.P to my Garmin. I don’t know that I’ve done this because sadly I lost my fitness tracker. The band has come undone many times. (Even once on a plane where I was sure it was lost but found it when leaving.) It was only a matter of time.

  • Make meals at home 80% of the time or only eat out 4 times of the week.

I’ve started a new fitness plan and can say this happened for sure. I have been doing really good on improving my eating habits.

  • Go to a gym class at least 3 times a week.

I went once. I know what the hell? Not once a week, once the entire month. So the above-mentioned antibiotics I was on was for a double ear infection so it’s hard to go to Zumba when you have a fever, headache and vertigo. 

  • Lose 5 pounds. I won’t put my weight but I started a new fitness program and am excited about it. (More details to come.)

So I went to weigh in today and am down 15 pounds. I had someone notice but I still have aways to go. I can openly say I’m proud of myself! This is also why I didn’t purge my closet, I might fit those skinny jeans just yet.

February 2017 Goals

Objective: Launch TheBalancedSideHustle.com and just list build and connect like crazy.

Personal Goals

  • Read one book
  • Get back into meditating
  • Do at least one activity a week for myself that isn’t work related.
  • Do my gratitude/goal journal at least 5 days a week if not 7.
  • Party like it’s 1999 for my grandpa’s 85th! I love that guy. Here is a picture for the hell of it. Grandparents

Blog and Freelance Goals

  • Continue working on Launch Your Signature Course!
  • Have 555 Facebook page likes
  • Have 3200 Twitter Followers
  • Have 1125 Instagram Followers
  • Have 990 Pinterest Followers
  • Create at least one new Resource for my Resource Library
  • Post at least 4 times this month
  • Spend at least 10 minutes a day engaging on each of the above social media sites. That means repinning, responding to tweets of others or seeing what their links are, etc.
  • Do at least 2 webinars
  • Reach out to affiliates
  • Do auto versions on relevant posts. I did my first audio take on a blog post in January. I have been wanting to do this for a while and plan to do it for posts in certain categories.

Health and Fitness

  • Make meals at home 80% of the time or only eat out 4 times of the week.
  • Go to a gym class at least 3 times a week.
  • Lose 5 pounds more pounds

February is going to be an amazing month. GO Patriots and happy black history month! What are you looking forward to this month? What did you accomplish last month? Let me know in the comments.

Things I Can’t Get Enough Of Lately V

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A new year means new obsessions. I haven’t done this in a while because I have been all business on the blog lately. Which is fun but that’s not how I am in my day to day life, I’m about business and about fun! You may notice that this edition of things I can’t get enough of lately is high on the entertainment side and that is because I spent a lot of the first month of the year sick and so I was looking for ways to keep myself entertained.

One Day At A Time

One day down of my antibiotics I decided to watch One Day at a Time, Netflix’s modern reboot of the 1970s/1980s sitcom that lasted nine years starting Valerie Bertinelli and Mackenzie Phillips (who makes an appearance in the reboot). I don’t think I’ve ever seen the original, but I will say that I really enjoyed this show. It was funny, and the characters are likable. They did a really good job highlighting real issues like mansplaining, veteran affairs, coming out in a minority household and so much more. It seems like a heavy show, but I think what makes it so likable is how they present these very real situations in a way that is approachable and relatable. Yes, the lead character has issues getting help from Veteran Affairs, and actress Justina Machado does a beautiful job delivering a heartbreaking monolog about it, but you still get to see that these dark moments aren’t all encompassing. The average person just takes things one day at a time. I think it’s a really authentic look into what a lot of average people face.

Scrappy Little Nobody

You know how you meet someone and you hit it off right away? then you discover that they worked at the same store as you, go to the same hair stylist, are also double jointed in their elbows or watch that super obscure web series no one else has heard of, and you just love them even more… that’s what reading Scrappy Little Nobody was like. I knew I loved Anna Kendrick; I knew if ever given a chance we would be the perfect duo of anti-social besties. Then I read her book and love her more than I thought possible. The things she says make you feel like you aren’t a total weirdo and that you will be okay. Also, it’s hilarious!

Talking As Fast As I Can

So I am proudly a part of the O.G. Gilmore Girls crew….excuse me while I get on my “I watched it when it the WB Network was still a thing” soapbox. So as such, I’ve been pretty much open to checking out anything with Lauren Graham or Alexis Bledel (Yes, even Bad Santa). I was so excited about reading this book. I didn’t have a large amount of, “OMG, my life!” moments in this book. I did really enjoy hearing about her life and the way she told it. I found myself laughing and crying. The way she recants her early auditions and days in college. How she talks about finding love and a level of comfort she didn’t know possible with Parenthood costar Peter Krause. The way she describes the days on the Gilmore Girls sets both times. How I had to stop myself from crying like a baby every time she mentioned the late Ed Harmon. Okay, maybe I did have some relatable “in my feelings” moment with this book. Lauren Graham has this way of describing people that make you wish you knew them and felt like you do at the same time, and that is a gift.

The Big Leap

Holy cow! I can’t even think how to put into words how much this book hit me like a ton of bricks. I pretty much listened to the audio version of it in a weekend and then randomly relisten or reread parts of it on Kindle. While it’s called The Big Leap, I think it should be called, Defining and Surpassing Your Upper Limits. Without going too into the psychology behind the book, the idea is we all subconsciously have an amount of happiness or success we think we deserve (this is a limit that normally reflects something that happens during our development) and when we start to get close to it or surpass it, we do something to self-sabotage. (I am giving you a very broad understanding.) The book just showed me how to recognize why I have some of the negative feelings I deal with and also makes me realize why I have trouble in certain areas of my life. I went back and forth about what mindset book I wanted to read and then Mariah Coz recommended it, and it is seriously something I plan to learn more about. I’m about to start reading Conscious Living which is also by Dr. Gay Hendricks.

The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl


Another book I’ve had the pleasure of enjoying this month is The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl. I don’t know where I’ve been because I didn’t discover Issa Rae until a few months ago when on a whim I decided to give her show Insecure on HBO a chance. To be honest I felt an automatic connection with the storyline. While the title character and I live very different lives, there is something refreshing about seeing someone like myself on television. I don’t mean just a “black girl” I mean someone who is educated and not the stereotypes you see on television and film so often or the over correction of the former. But this isn’t a review of the show so I’ll continue, like most books written by actors or comedians you learn about her past and how she got to where she is, her struggles of being the “white” black girl or having people ask, “Can I touch your hair,” are all too relatable. To be totally honest even if you don’t identify yourself as an “awkward black girl,” or even black at all, it’s an amusing book and might be eye opening to some not so socially acceptable things that are somehow still typical behavior.

Journaling

When I was growing up I used to write religiously, I mean I write now (see blog for details lol), but I used to journal almost every night. Even now when I’m dealing with serious emotions, I’ll just start writing out my feelings, but it hasn’t been on a regular basis in a while. If you follow me on Instagram, you may have seen a post I shared about how I was starting a nightly journaling routine. I have an alarm set every night and at the end of the night I write down four things:

  • Something I’m grateful for.
  • Something I want in my life or business.
  • Something I accomplished that day.
  • One goal for the next day.

I try my best to do this every night even when I have a hard time thinking of something. Every Sunday night I read the notes from the entire week. It takes about 5 minutes a night, but it allows me to end the day feeling focused, driven, accomplished and grateful. As someone who named her blog “All The Things I Do,” I believe that every aspect of my life should be celebrated, inspected and guided, so I don’t make myself obligated to only writing about blog or business things.
I’ve written things like, “I’m grateful for my wit,” on a day where I was feeling exceptionally clever. Other days my goal has been as simple as, “Get the laundry done.” It’s not about making a business plan or anything large scale but taking a few minutes to reflect and touch base with myself.

Beaches Reboot

Now before anyone goes on a rant about us silly millennials not knowing the greatness of the original, Beaches has been one of my all time favorite movies since I first saw it on HBO at age 10 and cried my eyes out. Besides my eternal love for Bette Middler, this film was a genuine embodiment of female friendship. Every time my family went anywhere remotely out of town I hoped I’d meet a girl and be lifelong friends… hopefully without one of us getting a horrible illness. That being said I’ll admit for the longest time I thought Barbara Hershey’s character died from exhaustion and I was worried that if my mom worked too hard, she might suffer the same fate… ah to be young again. Anyway, I was nervous to watch the reboot although I am a huge fan of Nia Long and Indina Menzel. I thought they did an excellent job of staying true to the theme of the story while updating it. Indina Menzel did a breathtaking job of covering the original songs that everyone relates to the film like Wind Beneath My Wings and The Glory of Love as well as some great original pieces, like Last Time, which literally brought tears to my eyes… Am I the only one who watches a story or movie and cries in happy parts because you know it’s all about to go to shit? Not going to lie I bought the soundtrack on Google Play.
Open your mind and give it a chance if you haven’t. Don’t go in comparing it to a movie that came out nearly 20 years ago, watch it for a modern story of friendship portrayed by two amazing actresses, one of which is an amazing singer.
My only objection was the story was slightly rushed given the original film was over 2 hours and the made for tv reboot was 2 hours with commercials.

So have you checked out anything on my list? Any new shows or books you love lately?

9 Mistakes Bloggers Make Managing Their Time

If you’re like me, your waking hours are filled with tasks, expectations, and stress. For most of us, even our vacations or “days off” are filled with things we have to do or obligations that need to be handled. Well that’s a sad thought, isn’t it? It doesn’t have to be.
For a long time, I found myself in this loop of never-ending stress and a growing to-do list. I didn’t find some magic pill or master time travel to give myself an extra 10 hours a day to write, sleep and watch Netflix…(isn’t Netflix just the best thing ever?!?)
The first thing I did was learn to recognize the mistakes I was making when it came to building my business that was slowing my business down. I am still growing for sure, but if I’d started to realized these mistakes sooner, I could have been seeing revenue, growth and a lot less stress in my business a year or so sooner.

Maybe it’s because I’ve had a lot of experience in the different roles that come with dating but I see a lot of things the same way I see romance. Trying to figure out your work style is a little like kissing frogs, Often you figure out what doesn’t work far sooner than you find out what does… so let me save you some time and point out some of the biggest mistakes people make when trying to manage their life, their day job, and a side hustle.

Focusing on Perfect

Any time you put something out in the world with your name on it you probably want it to be pretty kick-ass, after all, your name is on it. So it’s easy to get stuck on perfection. I hate to say it, but you’re never going to reach perfection. So instead of getting stuff done you just keep finding yourself being unsatisfied with the little work you do complete because it isn’t perfect and therefore it never gets done. Done is better than perfect. Think of it this way how many programs or tools do you purchase that get an update or reboot. Sometimes you might think something is “perfect” only to discover once it’s out there that something is missing or not working correctly. Steve Jobs didn’t get the iPhone perfect the first time…see the multiple versions that have followed and continue to come out each year.

Failing to Start

Have you ever sat down with the intention of knocking out a few tasks with a to-do list that looks something like:
Create a pitch for Lane’s Online Magazine
Write this week’s newsletter
Update the blog post about knitting
Answer email from Karen

Then you sit there and look at it without knowing where to start so you decide, oh I’ll respond to some social media posts and watch an episode of Gilmore Girls. Next thing you know it’s 3 hours later, time for bed and while your Buffer is full nothing else got done.
Falling into this trap is easy. We want to get so much done, but we get frustrated and then nothing gets done.
Just get started on whatever is the first thing on the list just do it and get it done.

Taking on Too Much

This goes right in hand with not knowing where to get started. When you are excited about your business or side hustle, you find yourself constantly having new ideas or wanting to implement new things into it. For me, I always want to do more and go bigger. Adding new forms of revenue or a new kind of media is a great way to grow your business but doing it at the wrong time and in the wrong way is an excellent way to kill your business.
If you are a one woman team already feeling pressed for time, it probably isn’t a good idea to try to launch a new e-course, 2nd website, podcast and youtube channel in the same month (yeah I seriously was considering doing this at one point in time). Start by looking at low-hanging fruit (things that are easy for you to incorporate at that given time) if you want to do all of these see which would be easiest for you to do first and then start with that and once you have your footing in one area, add in the next. If you try to take on too much at once not only will your attention be divided but your work will be sloppy.

Multi-tasking

Multi-tasking isn’t evil at the right time and place. Listening to a book on tape while washing the dishes or reading a magazine while pooping is great examples of doing more than one thing at once successfully. But most of the time multitasking is a major productivity killer! If you want to get the most out of your work time, focus on one thing at a time. Turn your phone face down, leave it in the other room or shut down the sound, even small multitasking like answering a few texts during the time you said you’d work can hurt your productivity and strain your focus.
The more you spend time working focused, the more you learn about your ability to balance things. Can you listen to music with lyrics while writing? Can you watch television while painting pieces for your Etsy store? For me I absolutely cannot work in silence, my mind starts racing, and I start thinking about anything and everything, besides what I’m trying to focus on. If I’m working on social media posts I can listen to stand up or even re-watch old episodes of Family Guy on Netflix if I’m working on a post I can listen to music but if I try to watch t.v. more times than not I find myself taking a longer time to get things done.

Setting Deadlines But Not Work Sessions

Deadlines are important. For me, it is my way of saying, “Hey world, I’m doing this on this date.” Then realizing, “Holy crap it’s out there, now I have to do it.” But what is a deadline if you don’t have a plan for actually getting the thing done? If you say you want to publish a post on the 13th, when do you plan to write it? Schedule a period for working on it and if need be, anything else that accompanies the task, like creating graphics or social media posts. A deadline is a lot like a goal, it’s great to have, but a plan of action is what turns both a goal and deadline into a reality.

Thinking busy and productive are the same thing.

Busy having a great deal to do.
Productive achieving or producing a significant amount or result.
There are a lot of people who love to talk about how busy they are but the truth is being busy doesn’t mean you’re productive. I could go outside and try to pick up every rock in my apartment complex, and I’m technically busy, but it doesn’t mean I’m doing anything productive. While there are “busy” tasks that need to be done, you have to find a healthy balance of busy and productive. Yes getting your inbox down to zero is a great feeling but more than likely it doesn’t represent any income in your pocket. Just because you are doing something doesn’t mean you are making the best use of your time. Be able to recognize when you are performing goal achieving activities and not just stress relieving ones.

Focusing Too Much on Organizing.

This one was a huge rabbit hole for me. I want to be organized. Obviously, I work better when my desk is clean, and I know things look beautiful, but even worse I used to sit down with my to-do list and try to decide which thing was most important in the right order to get things done. Well, this was a waste of time.
I discovered that by just hitting the list running, I was able to get more crossed off. There are some days when it’s clear something needs to be done first, like if you have a deadline but other days you may not know where to start, so just start.

Getting Stuck on Semantics

If you can’t complete a task because you need something to complete it, then I try to follow this simple rule, if obtaining it will take more than 5 minutes I move on to the next thing on my todo list.
Are you writing a movie review and can’t remember the name of the lead actress? Go ahead and search for it, then go back to working on the review.
Do you want to make an email course outline on a poster board with sticky notes but don’t have the poster board or sticky notes? Then move on to the next task because you’ll probably just end up spending an hour at Target looking at cute office supplies. (Guilty!)
Don’t let the semantics, stop you in your tracks. Often I’ve discovered by moving forward and not focusing on the little things that could be a setback, I often find workarounds or better ideas.

Not Scheduling Downtime

This may seem counter-productive to all the mistakes mentioned above but in reality having downtime is great for productivity. I wrote a post Why You Should Take a Personal Day a while back, and I fully believe in it. Personal days and downtime are key for allowing your body and mind to recharge and relax. We are always so stressed and have so much to do, but I’ve discovered when I take the time to take a break or have some fun I come back with new ideas or feel revitalized and excited about whatever project I’m working on again. I try to do something fun most weekends, but I also have a night off I try to stick to at least once a week, Thursdays are for Shondaland. I put the laptop away, have some wine and enjoy some of my favorite shows. It’s all about rewarding myself for hard work and reminding myself that there is more to life than work.

Are you making any of these mistakes when it comes to setting up your day? Recognizing them is a great way to stop doing them. The next time you find yourself in one of these situations take a second and think about what you’re doing and how you can refocus your time and energy into working more productively.