4 Tips For Leaving Comments & Creating Connections

4 Tips For Leaving Comments & Creating Connections

As bloggers, we want to get blog comments. To us seeing that little icon showing “X” amount  of new comments is one of the most exciting parts of blogging.

We Google “How to get more comments” and “How to get your readers to engage more,” but we tend to miss out or misuse one of the best ways to get more engagement on our own blog…

Almost every article written about to get more comments on your blog will tell you that one of the best sources for growing your audience and getting better engagement is to comment on other bloggers’ blogs.

It’s true, bloggers read blogs and they understand how exciting it is to get new comments on a post and in my opinion, are far more likely to share or comment on a good post than a reader who doesn’t blog.

So what do we do?

We take this advice and start commenting like crazy!

“I’m going to stop by at least 20 blogs a day and leave a comment… if I do this I’ll probably get at least 10 people respond.”

Wait slow down… Here are 4 Tips For Comments Like a Boss!

Comment where you ideal reader is hanging out

Comment on blogs in your niche. I’m not saying that if you are a fashion blogger you can only comment on other fashion blogs or it’s a waste of time because that’s not true.  Those comments will just be good writer karma.

If you are commenting with hopes of connecting with other people you should go places where the people you want to connect with are.

If you blog about food then you will be able to genuinely engage with a post on a food blog. You will probably have interesting feedback that adds to the conversation and makes the blogger want to respond and learn more about you.

Don’t be a jerk

Sometimes you will get negative comments, it’s unavoidable the more traffic you get, the more likely one of those visitors will be a troll. But what about when it’s another blogger that leave you sitting there scratching your head like, “Did they really just say that to me?”

Say you land on a website and after reading the article realize that you don’t agree with the post?  You don’t have to leave without commenting, you just need to comment in a way will make the writer not want to delete your comment.

You can have an opposing opinion without being rude.

I wrote a piece a while back titled, If you give a human a uterus, about my decision not to have children and I got a lot of interesting feedback. A majority of the comments I got really related with my thoughts on how it was my choice but then there was the one (there is always one, they say), the one where this mother who couldn’t have agreed with me less about not wanting to have children and wanting people to stop treating me like I was a horrible person for not wanting to. She went on a 4 paragraph rant about why I was wrong and then put the link to her blog at the end of it.

If I didn’t think it was so hilariously bold of her to actually berate me on my own blog for having an opinion and then have the nerve to type her blog link in the comment, it would have really set me off!  Needless to say, that is the only (non-spam) comment I’ve ever not approved.

You can disagree with me but don’t think you can insult me and I’m going to just leave your insults and blog link on my website.

If you are commenting to connect then leave it respectful. You don’t have to be fake or lie that you agree with someone if you don’t but at least be respectful about it.  I know certain topics like faith and politics are hot button and can cause strong emotions so I would avoid commenting on blogs about these topics as a part of your engagement plan. However, if you are going to disagree, make it about having a conversation or trying to get better understanding about their point of view. There are enough trolls on the internet…don’t be a self-serving troll!

Actually Read the Content

A lot of bloggers generate traffic and comments via Facebook groups, these are amazing places to find new blogs and make connections.

One thing I’ve discovered that drives me insane about Facebook groups is the when you join a comment for comment thread and someone comments on your blog just to be able to say they did it.

When you leave comments like “Great Post,”  “Cool,” or “Thanks for sharing.”

I think…Did they even read it?

Even worse when I get questions asking me something that I already addressed in the post vividly… so I know it was skimmed just so they could comment. I know reading 20 blog posts a day can be a lot but if you’re going to do it do it right.

When you do this your comments seem super generic and it’s obvious you are just commenting to help yourself.

While you may think it really is a “Great post”  that doesn’t tell me a lot. Why is it a great post? What about it did you like so much? Tell me what really stood out to you or connected with you. Tell me an additional item you’d add.

Figure out how it relates to you

Another problem with commenting via Facebook Threads is sometimes you will have absolutely nothing to say about the post. Not because it isn’t a good post or because you didn’t read it but because it doesn’t apply to your lifestyle, I’m more than certain things on my blog are very niche specific.

I experience this often with bloggers who write about having kids, I also deal with this often with food bloggers because I am a VERY picky eater so often their recipes aren’t interesting to me because I’m like “I can’t handle spicy!”

This doesn’t give me a face pass to just comment, “Cool post. Thanks for sharing.” This just means I have to work a little harder to find how it relates to me.

If I need to comment on a post about the birthday party a blogger had for their 5-year-old, I find a connection. I may say something like:

This looks like a super fun party. Happy birthday to Bethany! I love the Frozen theme. I didn’t have any real birthday parties until I was 16 but I would’ve loved a Tweety Bird party at that age.”

I didn’t have to pretend to have kids or just disregard the whole post because I’m not a mom, I found how I related. No, I don’t have kids but I do have a birthday and at one point was 5.

I know not all your comments will be earth shattering, super informative life changing comments but you can do these simple things to build real connections.

Here are a few of my favorite comments I’ve gotten on my blog:

Great Blog Comments

What are some of the best comments you’ve gotten if you’re a blogger?

What are some issues you struggle with when it comes to commenting on other blogs or getting people to comment on your blog? 

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