I was looking for an email from late 2015 when I found this:
This is the first time you are sending an email using your All The Things
I do account, today marks the day your whole life changed.
WOW! That was both ambitious and so long ago. I’d like to think my punctuation has gotten better but it blows my mind that I’ve been on this journey for two years.
A lot has changes in the past two years since a creatively unfulfilled 25-year-old me hit “Publish” on that first post. The direction of the blog has become more focused and has become a huge part of my day to day life.
I remember about six months ago I was thinking about how two years was coming up and I wanted to do something big. While I didn’t schedule a live event as I had hoped, I did want to take some time to mark the occasion on the blog. Last year I didn’t too much write an anniversary post. Instead, I wrote a letter to my pre-blog self.
This year I want to talk about a few things I’ve learned in the last two years as a blogger.
There are so many up and downs in the blogging world. Months where pageviews are painfully slow, days where readers aren’t very friendly or you just totally lack motivation. Then there will be months when your email list is growing, people are sending the sweetest messages, and you find yourself with some extra disposable income. With anything in life, there are good times and bad. The bad times make the good times better. Also done is better than perfect. Don’t let yourself get caught up in the myth of perfection, just do your best. Improvement comes over time. Kawhi Leonard didn’t get his Championship ring by telling coaches he didn’t want to play in a game until he was sure he’d make every shot. He practiced, played and improved his skills. (Go Spurs Go!)
Give Yourself a Break
We are all so quick to make excuses for the people we love and people in general. “He doesn’t know any better.” “She’s still learning.” “She meant well.” When it comes to ourselves, we tend to be more unforgiving. Give yourself a break, if you mess up figure out where and how to fix it. In blogging, business and in life, learn to forgive yourself so you can love yourself.
Stay With The Purpose
There are tons of ways you can get mixed up and lose your way. You get distracted by the bloggers talking about their 6 figure launches and running their business on autopilot or with the help of a team. Then sit in your one-bedroom apartment and feel like you are working your butt off but getting nowhere with your $200 AdSense check. Keep in mind most of the crazy successful bloggers have started with a purpose or mission, not to make money. If you want to keep your passion, focus on the purpose. Keep your integrity and stay true to yourself, it might take longer, but you’ll sleep better.If you want to keep your passion, focus on the purpose. Click To Tweet
Shake Them Haters Off
I am just going to share a few things that keep me going when the trolls go to work. Including (some loosely quoted):
“It’s easy to attack and destroy an act of creation; it’s a lot more difficult to perform one.”
“The bigger game you play, the more criticism you’ll receive.”
“The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, will point blank not like you. But it is also filled with those who will love you fiercely. They are your people. You’re are not for everyone and that’s OK. Talk to people who can hear you.”
I can’t say that a day will come where a hurtful comment or mean words won’t sting me at all, but I have worked hard not to dwell on them. People are always going to have something negative to say but don’t let that derail you. The only time you should let criticism alter your progress is if it’s constructive. I believe it was a MarieTV episode that said when you receive criticism ask yourself, “Is it constructive,” and if it’s not then let it go (Especially when you didn’t ask for that person’s opinion).
Not everyone is going to like you no matter what you do. You could give a hundred dollar bill to the next ten people you see and one would be upset you didn’t give them five twenties, two would think you’re showing off and four would believe you want something from them in return. The hundred dollar bills of your knowledge are for the three people who are grateful and understand the reason behind your work.
All in all if given a chance I wouldn’t go back and not start my blog. It has been an amazing two years and here is to many more. So if you’ve been reading for a while or this is your first time on my site, thank you for being a part of the journey!