5 Things You Need to Accept If You're A Blogger

5 Things You Need to Accept If You’re A Blogger

This month marks the one year since All the Things I Do launched and let me tell you I’ve learned a lot (and am still learning). This past year has been crazy and amazing.  I had no idea when I started, it would be the roller coaster ride it has become. When I first started the blog I had a plan. I would write the blog, share it shamelessly and make my income selling ad space and doing product reviews. I quickly learned that this was not the path for me. I realized I needed to focus more, learn more and connect as much as I possibly could with my fellow bloggers.  I won’t say I wasn’t scared because I was. What if people didn’t like it? What if I was wasting my money and time on redundant and uninteresting posts that no one cared about?  If you are a blogger you are probably familiar with these fears.

While your blog is a safe haven, like all things in life, you have to realize that there are some things you just can’t control. No matter how bad you want your blog to succeed or how hard you try there are a few things you just have to accept. That’s putting it too nicely…. There are a few things you just have to get over because, it is what it is.

5 Things you need to accept if you want to be a blogger

You can’t do a twitter chat every night and if you can you’re probably slacking

I love Twitter chats, don’t get me wrong, but you cannot do them all! There are some amazing chats out there, hosted by some amazing online bosses but if you spend every night participating in a Twitter chat one of 2 things will probably happen…

  • You’ll start to slack on your blog content and sharing.
  • You will become VERY burnt out.

For me, part of the appeal of twitter chats is that I do about 2 a month and they leave me feeling inspired, excited and with some new twitter friends/followers. As much as I wish I could hope on to twitter every night and have an hour long discussion with fellow bloggers and solopreneurs it just ain’t happening. I barely have time some nights to finish my freelance work or blog marketing. Plus, sometimes you need a night off! Sometime you need happy hour with your bestie, a Netflix night with your sweetie or just a nice bubble bath and some DVR purging and that’s okay.

This isn’t just about Twitter chats in case you didn’t see through the subtext…. it’s about everything. You can’t be in every Facebook group, you can’t participate in every Instagram giveaway, you can’t subscribe and read every blogger’s newsletter.

If you try to do it all you will get burnt out. I understand the urge to do as much as you can with the hope of growing your blog as fast as you can’t, but take it from this eager beaver, don’t overwhelm yourself.

Little by little becomes a lot

This lesson goes hand in hand with not over-extending yourself.

Blogging is a full time job and a lot of us are doing it with a job (or 2). Combined with family, friends and everything else, it is a lot to handle.

You won’t come out of the gate and win every blog award, have a million page views, 5,000 Instagram followers, etc. You have to build your blog and brand over time.

Each new post is a piece of the puzzle. Each time you make a new connection you are building your community. When you start your blog it will probably be a slow process and that is perfectly normal. As long as you are producing good content, being genuine, being consistent and learning as much as you can you will see growth.

There are so many resources out there to help you and so many awesome people in the blogging community who want to see you do well.

You don’t have to have it all figured out on day one. All of the super successful bloggers I know will admit that it was a process for them. They often teach using their mistakes as lessons. Which brings me to my next point.

You will make mistakes

I will never forget when I finally was ready to premiere my first content upgrade. I checked everything a 20 times and was so excited to use it to grow my email list. My first content upgrade was my Writer’s Guide- 55 Prompts to kill Writer’s Block. I was so excited about it and worked super hard on it.

So when I hit publish early one Monday morning in December I was horrified when not even 20 minutes later @BloggerRT retweeted it and someone responded, “Is one of the tips to use spell check?” Yes, it was passive aggressive, sarcastic and in my opinion, a rude way to let me know my post graphic had a grammatical error but I couldn’t even fixate on that, my big moment had been ruined!

Long story short…. I use Canva for most of my images and because I typed in the wrong word but still a real word it didn’t register it as a mistake. FACE PALM. I scrambled to go correct the graphic and fix it anywhere I could but in my mind the damage was done. This ruined the whole “roll out”! Everyone saw this guy’s comment calling out my totally human error! (Because as I’m sure you know, everyone on twitter sees every single tweet ever tweeted… btw this guy had about 69 followers on Twitter…so obviously my reputation as a “serious blogger” was forever tarnished!)

I can joke about it now because that shit will happen, no matter how much you proof read or how many eyes you have on something, sometimes mistakes will be made or something will slip through the cracks and that’s okay. You’re human!

The key is to fix the mistake and  move on.

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Side-bar: If you see a fellow blogger has made a mistake try to just send them a private message and let them know. If it’s in some place (like Twitter) where you can’t do it quietly, say it politely, we’re all bloggers so let’s be nice to each other. Let’s not try to make each other feel bad about being human, because none of us are perfect.

Say something like, “Hey I was checking out your post and noticed ____. I just wanted to let you know. Great post.” I’m not saying lie, if you don’t like the post say, “… Just wanted to let you know. It happens to all of us.”

I work for a Marketing agency, we have at least 2 people proof any single draft for errors and almost always, things gets missed that first time. When you are a one-person team chances are you don’t have anyone to proof your work. This funny thing happens in your brain when you’re checking your own work, because you know what you meant to say, your brain will autocorrect errors and you might miss them, no matter how alert you are (so never mind how easy this can happen when you have been working 9-5 then 6-11 and just want to get the piece done).

2 Tips that do help with this:

  • Reading out loud.
  • Reading the article backwards sentence by sentence.

Some people are just mean

There is a reason people came up with the term “Trolls,” some people don’t have an any of positive energy or goals of their own so when they see you trying to do something bigger they just want to spread negativity and hide behind their keyboards. Sometimes people just don’t think before they type and although there is probably a photo of you on the same page as the post they are online and can’t fathom that the mean things they are saying are going to be read by an actual human with feelings. Finally, sometimes people honestly don’t realize when they are being dicks, they may make a comment they would make to a friend or say something that wouldn’t hurt their feelings. They may make an innocent observation and you are just having a lousy day and it hits you like a punch in the gut.

No matter what this will never end. You read the negative comments, respond, delete them or however you choose to handle it and then just keep going. Not everyone will agree with you or like what you have to say. The people who do want to hear what you have to say are the ones who matter. They are the people you need to connect with and the people who will love you, support you and grow with your blog.

You don’t know it all

Never close yourself off to learning from your peers. Never shut done someone trying to offer advice or just a helping hand, simply because “you got this.” I’m sure you are rocking it but there is always something you can learn from anyone you meet, even if it’s simply, what not to do.

We are all experts at something. Life is about growing and learning from each other. Guess what? So is blogging.

 

As I said in the beginning of this post I am still constantly learning. Anything I post, tips or tricks, any advice is stuff I’ve learned from my own personal experience in blogging and business. While I have been writing my whole life, blogging for 3 years and running All the Things I Do for a year now, I don’t pretend to know it all.

Different things work for different bloggers, what works for me may not work for you and vice versa.

What are something you’ve had to accept as a blogger?

114 comments

  1. CAROL CASSARA

    I was surprised at how much time it takes, not only to do my own daily posts but to comment and read others. I love reading other blogs but I can spend an entire day every day doing it!

  2. Ashleigh

    This is a great post and so true! I’m sorry about the guy on Twitter… I did that once, had a spelling error on a graphic. Luckily, I caught it before too many people saw it and was able to correct it… but still. Thank you for sharing these tips, I pinned it because new bloggers really should know these things.

  3. Kerry

    You’re saying I don’t know it all? How rude. Haha. Just kidding. Love these! All very true and things I learned very on in blogging. Also, you’re not going to make it overnight! Or become Insta-famous. I wish though 🙂

  4. Audrey

    Thanks for sharing these tips. I struggling with wanting to make my blog full time or just a hobby. I know it will all work out in the end, but I sometimes feel like I can’t keep up.

  5. Clare Speer

    I love this “little by little becomes a lot” – thank you for sharing that. I am trying to build my blog… and it has taken time with lots of setbacks and I have so much to learn…. and there have been lots of mistakes a long the way. Thanks for your candor and your tips!

  6. Dia

    Thanks for stoping by Clare. I love you blog and learn a lot about life from it. I figure admitting my faults and mistakes might help other bloggers avoid them.

  7. Dia

    I totally understand that feeling. It can be a lot but as long as you love it is worth it.

  8. Dia

    Haha right Kerry. If I could just get 2000 email subscribers from one post that’d be great lol

  9. Dia

    Yes! Carol it takes so much time if you really want to get into it but I do enjoy the reading other blogs part.

  10. Dia

    Thank you Ash. 🙂

  11. Beth@FrugalFroggie

    I learned that I can only do so much. Every blogger things you have to be on every social media. I have a family and a full time job. I do what I can.

  12. Dia

    Exactly. I mean once you really learn one and can schedule it maybe add more but don’t go out of your way to do 6 different platforms.

  13. candy

    Seems to be overwhelming at times. Blogging does take a ton of time. We keep blogging way.

  14. GiGi Eats

    What’s interesting and awesome and maybe I should be biting my tongue when I say this but… I have never experienced any HATE over the internet. Maybe I choose not to pay attention. Maybe my feeling just don’t get hurt if someone critiques me? But really, I have never had a problem with trolls… The “meanest” or most deragatory things people might say are something about my looks – but hey, I take it all as compliments? LOL!!!!!

  15. Paola

    Not everyone will agree with what you write even if it is scientifically backed up. That has been major for me.
    It is hard for me after Spending hours and money studing a subject, becoming a specialist on it and still get bashed by people with no knowledge at all. – Hurts me deeply.

  16. Melanie

    Great post! I’ve had to accept the fact that it won’t be an overnight success. Sometimes the numbers can be a bit discouraging but that’s just when I keep going and try to get better. Thanks for sharing this 🙂

  17. Terri Brooks

    I agree with each of these. I especially agree with the “mean people” one. I can’t imagine why people who are doing nothing always feel the need to criticize people who are. Similarly, I’ve notice my most supportive folks are people who have great blogs. So, I always consider the source.

    Great list. Very honest. I’m going to link to it from my blog at http://my40somethinglife.com/2016/03/1905/. I just wrote a blog post on a similar subject and your post gives a great perspective.

  18. brittany

    Yes!!!!!!!!!!!! To all of this yes!! We can’t do it all, people can be mean, and I can’t do a twitter chat every night! LOL I have only done one!!! Thanks girl for this post!

  19. Justine Y @ Little Dove Creations

    I still have never “properly” participated in a Twitter chat… lol. And I love what you said about how little by little becomes a lot, it’s so true!

  20. Erin @ A Welder's Wife

    These are all so true! There is so many things I didn’t realize had to be done to help grow a blog! I feel like I’ve done more marketing then writing new content. There’s a balance somewhere, I just have to find it! Thank you for sharing!

    Erin | http://www.awelderswife.com

  21. Kelly

    Thanks so much for this great post! Loved reading this!

  22. Dia

    Thanks Kelly

  23. Dia

    I’ve heard that honestly you only spend 20% on creating content the rest on marketing. As long as you’re hitting your post goal I’m sure you’re balanced.

  24. Dia

    …and you just jinxed yourself! lol jk I haven’t gotten any mean comments on my actual blog, but I have had responses on social media that you can tell are passive aggressive or the persons way of trying to make me feel bad.

  25. Dia

    The term labor of love comes to mind.

  26. Dia

    I like your blog, so screw them because thats all that matters 🙂 okay maybe thats a bit dramatic on me part. But I know what you mean. We put so much, time energy and money into our blog/brands it’s like “if you don’t have anything nice to say…go to another site”

  27. Dia

    Yeah I know what you mean. You’re like “what that post didn’t get a million likes on facebook?? But it’s so awesome” haha guilty here.

  28. Jennifer L. } Modern Chic

    Couldn’t agree more! It’s definitely a learning curve when you become a blogger, but it’s important to find that perfect balance for you as a blogger. Great insights!

  29. Katie @ Talk Less, Say More

    My biggest learn over the last 5 years is definitely about how much work it takes to do it all! It’s a lot and it’s definitely overwhelming, but it’s also fun and requires a LOT of passion and drive!

  30. Tiffany

    I’ve definitely had my share of goofs as a new blogger. I look back on old posts even and shake my head. I’ve learned a lot. My number one rule is not to give any attention to negative comments. I focus on the positive and learn from the rest!

  31. Lucy

    It’s the making mistakes one that I hate. It’s no fun to mess stuff up but it happens!

  32. Olivia

    These are great reminders… sometimes it is easy to feel like you have to do every little thing for your blog and that can easily lead you to being burnt out
    -Olivia
    Miss Olivia Says

  33. Jenny

    These are all great! I try to do one Twitter chat a week (my fav that I always tune into is #creativecoffeehour) but I can’t imagine trying to do more than that.

    xoxo, Jenny

  34. Shann Eva

    Great post! I am definitely still learning too. I love every point you included because they are all so true. I’ve been on the edge of burnout trying to participate in everything, so I cut way back, and I am feeling much better about everything. Also, all those mean people need to find something else to do 😉

  35. Dia

    Haha thanks Shann. Yes they need to read a book or take a nap lol

  36. Dia

    I’ll have to try that one. I get what you mean it’s like a hour a chat.

  37. Dia

    It totally sucks! I understand.

  38. Dia

    I am trying to go back and update my older posts. Some I put up just to say “I posted today” but I’m more organized now so I try to put out good content.

  39. Dia

    It does take a lot of time. I’m reminded each time someone gets upset that I can’t go to Happy Hour or do something random because I have scheduled blog activities.

  40. Dia

    Thank you Jennifer. You get out what you put in.

  41. Dia

    It’s one of my favorite quotes.

  42. Dia

    It is great but takes a lot of time and focus.

  43. Dia

    Thanks Terri I’ll check it out.

  44. Angie Scheie

    So much truth in all of this. I think I have about 10 saved webinars and classes yet to take, and each time I see something advertised on FB for some blogging help of some sort I want to sign up. It’s just impossible to do it all, even though I want to. I’m also just impressed that you rolled out a content upgrade in your first year. You’re on it! Sorry that guy was such a buzz kill. Some people. Love your reading the post backwards suggestion!

  45. Lezley

    I needed this! I am a new blogger and I am really struggling with some of these. This was helpful and reassuring!

  46. Leslie Rossi

    lately i feel how much work it all is. i can see why some bloggers burn out after a bit.

  47. Keating

    I love your point on mean people. I’m very fortunate that 99% of my blog comments are super positive and amazing, but of course I get a mean comment here and there. I delete them instantly because I just don’t need the negativity on my blog. It’s so important to not let those things get to you.

  48. Laci

    You rock girl this is spot on and such a great to reminder to new and old bloggers !!

  49. Lee Anne

    These are great, and a twitter chat every night? Hecks no LOL

  50. Crystal

    I write about grammar sometimes, so I am always worried some one will come along and tell me about a mistake, but it hasn’t happened yet! I know it will be giant and glaring when it happens though! haha I agree about burning out. There is something that you could be doing with a blog every second of every day. I do all my blog stuff in the morning so I have never done a twitter party but it sounds fun.

  51. Reginia Cordell

    Time management is one key things that needs to happen if one wants to grow their blog. Like you’ve mentioned above, piling all of your time in one place just isn’t practical. Also, new bloggers need to keenly understand reciprocation and understanding the rules of blog communities.

  52. Amanda

    I’ve learned that you can’t compare yourself to someone else’s middle. It is so hard to do as we all want that but being humble about what you’ve been able to do is a pretty good place to start.

  53. Cara

    Thank you for this awesome post today. This is just what I needed to hear. Sometimes when you are starting out as new blogger it is so easy to get caught up in the comparison game, but at the end of the day if you’re doing the absolute best you can with the time you’ve been allotted, then that’s all you can do. Great post! 🙂

  54. Betsy

    Oh man the thought “little by little becomes a lot” is really a great one. I really need to keep that in mind lately. Been feeling like I have to do everything all at once with my blog and be super awesome all the time.

  55. Katie

    All of this is so true! Especially the mistakes, I am still making tons of those!

  56. Angela Webster | Cosmic Kick

    These are some genuinely helpful tips. The one about trolls is so important. Often a person is trolling simply because they think it’s funny. Sometimes it’s because they are genuinely hateful people. Sometimes they have no self awareness. But every time it’s because the person is unhappy with their own existence in some way. The important thing is to deal with it and move on because responding is exactly what they are looking for. Unless things get dangerous, then report it to the Police.

    Your tip about reading out loud; I do this too 🙂 I find some many mistakes when I do this. It helps you write in your unique voice too I think.

  57. Chelsea

    I totally agree with all of this, especially slowly building your brand. People often expect to become “famous” overnight, and it generally doesn’t work that way!

  58. Tiana

    So true! All of these I was able to relate to.

  59. Gale

    Great tips. I especially like the one on how to nicely make suggestions to other bloggers. I’ll add one more thing to that someone suggested which I really liked. If you really liked the post and also caught an error, leave two posts…one praising the post, and another for the correction. On the correction, end by saying “feel free to delete this comment once you see it. :-)” That way, you leave them a way to nicely remove evidence of their mistake, without having to delete what you said about the content of their post, which they might want to keep.

  60. Kathryn

    Ah, yes hate mail. Hate mail sucks. Haters suck – I just want to slap them. Didn’t their moms teach them if you can’t say anything nice be quiet!?I think the best tip you have is that it’s important to realize that sometimes you don’t know everything – something really hard for me to do lol. I mean who likes admitting they’re wrong?

  61. Dia

    Haha love this comment. Yes smack some manners into them.

  62. Dia

    Thanks for stopping by Tiana.

  63. Dia

    Haha yeah for everyone 1000 bloggers it’s probably 2 people who just have crazy success in the first few months, I’m assuming.

  64. Dia

    Thanks Angela. It’s a blessing and a curse. I write like i talk to a fault sometimes lol

  65. Kaley

    Great things to keep in mind!

  66. Karin Rambo

    Great points! I think the biggest thing I’ve realized is that we as bloggers just simply can’t do it all no matter how much we may want to!

  67. Cassandra

    Such wonderful things to remember! Thank you for sharing.

  68. Jennifer @ The Champagne Supernova

    Dia! SO funny you say this, because I did a similar post today about how blogging has made me a better person. I was talking about how I had a typo in a post that was published on the blog for the Today show, and that anecdote contained a typo. HAHAHA. Another blogger politely pointed it out to me in the comments, which gave me time to go back and correct the typo. Oh, the irony. Great post and so true about everything happening little by little… it’s definitely a marathon.

  69. Dia

    Thanks so much for stopping by Jennifer! I really like your blog. I have to constantly check myself.

  70. Dia

    Thanks for stopping by Cassandra!

  71. Dia

    You have to pick your focus and your platforms.

  72. Dia

    Thanks Kaley!

  73. Dia

    As long as you keep trying!

  74. Dia

    It’s seriously something I remind myself everyday.

  75. Becky @ Disney in your Day

    Great advice. You are so right about the “little by little” thing. I used to just write blog posts and share them on facebook and pin them. Then I started scheduling posts. Then I started a newsletter, etc. It adds up quite a lot of work and it kind of sneaks up on you!

  76. Ashley

    I’ve made mistakes like that too and I am forever grateful for the person who private messaged me instead of displaying it publicly! Blogging is absolutely no joke and it is sad that people who do not blog can sometimes diminish it. I’m trying to make my passion come alive here and so many people think I am just playing on my phone a lot. Amazing post! Keep up the hard work 🙂

  77. Melanie Messerli

    I am a newbie blogger and I don’t know how many times I have wrote up a post, hit publish and then realize that I spelled something wrong. It is extremely frustrating, but I have learned to just go with it. I am not perfect, and I am okay with that 🙂

  78. Corina Ramos

    Hi Dia,

    I can relate to all of these points you shared. The one thing I learned about blogging is that success doesn’t happen overnight. It takes hard work and patience to see results. 🙂

    Thanks for sharing.

    Cori

  79. Morgan

    SO true! I can totally relate to all of these! And I make mistakes all the time too- oh, well! xx

  80. Rachel

    All great things! I’ve only participated in a few Twitter chats a year, but I definitely want to increase them when possible. It’s such a great way to network!

  81. Paula

    Blogging is HARD! I really feel like people think it’s SO easy. “Oh all you do is make dessert.” Makes me crazy!! But you are right, some people are just mean…I think it’s because they are miserable and misery loves company!

  82. Bev & Samantha from REinspired Decor

    Some helpful info, thanks! It’s great how fellow bloggers are so supportive of one another. We just tell ourselves to keep putting one foot in front of the other, always moving forward and one day we will look back and see just how far we’ve come.

  83. Kusum

    Wish we could do it all, no? You are absolutely right, I spend so much time reading other blogs, I love doing that because I get to see so many different perspectives on things but 24 hrs is just not enough. I have slowly started to come to terms with it. You seem to be doing such a wonderful job balancing everything, how do you do it, Dia?
    xx, Kusum | http://www.sveeteskapes.com

  84. Jenn Slavich

    This is so great! Yes, sometimes you will need to have a thick skin to share things in the cyber world. People can be so cruel when they are behind a computer screen knowing that you’ll probably never meet them. Whenever I get a negative comment I allow myself to grow from the experience. I have to say the one thing that I learned (I’ve learned a lot but the one that sticks out the most that I didn’t expect) was how amazing the blogging community is! There is so much love and encouragement it makes me glow everyday!!
    Dia, this was such a great read, thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us!!

  85. Alison | So Chic Life

    Takes a ton of time, doesn’t generate a ton of income unless you can supplement and diversify and possibly sell your sole to social media. Everyone can start a blog these days but it’s like any profession (if you plan to make $$) you have to educate yourself on how to write content that will be found and read. You can’t build it and they will come any longer there is too much noise out there. Hire a dang good developer because you’re gonna need it if you plan to have longevity. 🙂

    Thanks fore sharing your tips – so many we can learn from!

  86. Dia

    You do have to be willing to invest. Thanks Alison 🙂

  87. Dia

    Thanks Jenn. The blogging community is amazing! I love my tribe!

  88. Dia

    I gave up sleep for lint lol jk. Honestly I’m a pretty organized (to an extent obsessive) but I think the reason I can balance so much is because I make myself take breaks

  89. Dia

    I think if the community wasn’t so great more people would give up.

  90. Dia

    TRUTH! Yeah if it was just writing it’d be way different but it’s so much more.

  91. Dia

    I did one last night. It was amazing like always but really put me off schedule lol

  92. Dia

    I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  93. Dia

    As long as you keep trying 🙂

  94. Dia

    It takes hard work to cash checks!

  95. Dia

    So much love your way Melanie.

  96. Dia

    Thank you so much Ashley.

  97. Dia

    It is a lot of work but it’s doable. It does sneak up like a ninja!

  98. Dia

    Thanks Cara. Don’t compare yourself to others, we all blossom in our own time

  99. Dia

    Step by step!

  100. Dia

    I have opened up my dashboard to see 50+ comments and while I wish I could I know it’s unlikely I’ll be able to respond and approve to them all and go visit, read and comment on the other person’s site. But if I am in a facebook group and agree to do X amount of things I make a point to have it done by weeks end if not that day. Don’t sign on to something you can’t do.

  101. Dia

    For the most part night time is my blog time. But yes I could do stuff 24/7 and still there would be more .

  102. Dia

    Haha not doing that!

  103. Dia

    Thank you Laci!

  104. Dia

    I couldn’t agree more. Don’t feed the trolls.

  105. Dia

    Its a catch 22, I can just write and not market and save so much time but then I feel like no one is listening and I’m wasting me time.

  106. Dia

    Thanks Lezley!

  107. Dia

    Thanks Angie. I’m trying to do more but one thing at a time.

  108. Alissa

    YES, YES, YES! Preach it girl! I really hate it when people jump ALLLLLLL in and a) expect overnight success b) that everyone is waiting on you to post another post and that c) you can do it all. I am not great at some things and just have to accept that and then do what I am GREAT at!

    The Adored Life

  109. Dia

    Right outsource what you’re bad at or try to learn but don’t over extend.

  110. Dia

    I love that! It doesn’t seem nasty. Just helpful 🙂

  111. Dia

    One step at a time 🙂

  112. Anna Clarke

    You put what every blogger thinks into words so beautifully! Thanks for sharing! A great encouragement for many who are eager to succeed, but also need to be patient with themselves and their blog. Amazing post!! -xx Anna

  113. Dia

    Thank you Anna. You really do have to get over these stuff and focus on what you an control.

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