I’ve always been a very emotional person. I admit the list of things that have made me cry include but aren’t limited to a Cheerios commercial, Joe Dirt, The Office, Taken, Adam Sandler’s Big Daddy and almost every episode of Grey’s Anatomy. So I feel more than qualified to discuss the struggle and indeed, it is real. Let’s clarify people who cry a lot aren’t necessarily depressed. In fact people who cry a lot often use tears to express many emotions, including joy, anticipation and hope.
Here are 6 things only people who cry a lot will understand.
You’ve mastered the art of the silent public cry
When that picture of the small child with cancer meeting Chris Pratt dressed as StarLord flashes on your Yahoo Feed first thing in the morning and tears just jump out of your eyes you manage to keep your composure. You’d be an Olympian if The Dash to the bathroom before anyone notices, was a real sport. On the plus side you’ve trained yourself not to make the ugly cry face so even if someone does see you, you know you cry pretty.
You often worry your neighbors think you’re a hot mess.
You’re sitting on the couch crying like you’re being tortured and forced to watch your loved ones murdered but the truth is, this week’s episode of The Vampire Diaries is extra sad. Somebody died (which happens all the time) or someone confessed their love to someone and you just lose your shit.
You may have mastered the art of the silent cry in public but at home it’s a free for all full-blown cry; tears flowing, nose dripping, hyperventilating mess.
You are bawling your eyes out and for a moment you wonder, “Can my neighbors hear me?” You strongly believe that at any moment they might knock on your door and ask if everything is okay.
You keep tissues on hand
And on this day all noses shall be dry.
You buy Kleenex in bulk, then you distribute for easy access. One box on the coffee table, one by the bed, one in your car, one at your desk, etc. You’re always prepared.
But come allergy season you will surely be beloved.
You’re used to hearing the phrase, “Everything makes you cry.”
You wish you could stop yourself from saying it but the phrase just flies out of your mouth on cue.
“Omg, it made me cry.”
Which is followed by, “Everything makes you cry.”
Your friends know you and love you but they don’t necessarily consider your loss of tears as an accurate gauge for something’s level of sadness.
You reserve you personal tears for private
You will break down in a minutes over a moving speech, sad movie or moving proposal on YouTube but tears that result from your real life personal pain rarely have an audience. You normally cry for yourself in the car, shower or with your head buried into a pillow (or vodka bottle).
You probably handle your emotions better than most and you feel more authentically
I’m not saying that people who don’t break down when they hear, “Butterfly kisses” are an emotional volcano waiting to explode. But people who cry a lot have easy access to their emotions (right there on the surface). They get “all the feels” they can tell quickly how something or someone makes them feel.
Just like anything in life if you deal with something a lot you will understand it more.
When they are happy they are really happy and when they are sad they are really sad. While this can be a bit of an emotional roller coaster during times of extreme stress or change, it makes them feel alive.
So grab a box of tissues and let it out.