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Behind The Anxiety: Open Letter About Depression

You may not watch soap operas. You might think they are silly and over dramatic but for most of the past 29 years, The Young & The Restless has been a part of my life. I started watching like most people did, because of an older relative. Before I started going to school I would watch the show daily with my grandpa. After I started school it became a staple of the summer. So much so that I started recording it on VHS each day. Yes, I just aged myself. Then it became a hit or miss once I started college but once I got a DVR, forget about it. It was on like donkey kong.

That’s my fun way of saying I still watch every episode of the show.

As a lifer not only do I watch the show but I keep up with the cast on social media. You can imagine my shock when I woke up hungover Monday after the Superbowl to learn that Kristoff St. John had been found dead. Kristoff St. John has played Neil Winters on Young and The Restless for 27 years. A talented actor and a fan favorite. The last few months his presence has been sporadic at best. So much so that on the last episode he was on I remember squalling “Neil! My man!” when he appeared on the screen. “My man,” was kind of Neil’s catchphrase/greeting and from what I can tell may have also been Kristoff’s.

Dia, why are you going on about a soap opera star? Like sure death is sad but how much does this affect you?

The truth, more than you think. While the exact cause of his death is still up in the air most of the people familiar with his story are assuming 1 of 2 things,  suicide or a broken heart. A few years ago his son killed himself while in a mental health facility and he never truly recovered from the loss. So even if he didn’t kill himself his son’s death probably played some role in him dying at 52.

I feel like mental health is this big shameful thing. No one wants to talk about. People don’t get it. They say “Cheer up buttercup.” or “Can’t you just be happy,” like you’re choosing to be anxious or depressed. They say these things and all you hear is “I don’t want to deal with your pain. Can you pretend everything is fine so I’m comfortable? You’re such a burden.

If you’re never excused yourself from a meeting to sob uncontrollably in the bathroom because everything felt like too much….

If you’ve never doubted if you could live another day this way….

If you’ve never felt guilty for being so sad when things look so good to the outside world and you know things could be worse….

If you’ve never written a suicide note…

Looked too long and too hard at a bottle of pills…

Didn’t want to die but weren’t sure how you could live….

You’re lucky.

I’m not writing this to ruin your mood. I’m writing this for a few reasons.

  1. To explain why I do what I do. I know a podcast where I talk to some of the best minds in the business might seem like just a fun hobby but it’s stories like this. Anxiety and depression are very real and if hearing that you’re not alone or that it’s totally normal to feel like giving up or to cry in the shower…car…supermarket. As much as I love talking to these women, messages telling me how much someone related to a story or how grateful they are for the podcast it lights me up.
  2. To beg you not to say insensitive statements to people who seem sad all the time. Sometimes an “It’s not that big of a deal.” “Be positive,” may be well intended but can only alienate someone dealing with depression even more. You don’t have to let their feelings “bring you down” but just be supportive. Sometimes if you just listen it can be a huge help. Just say “I’m here for you.” Don’t try to fix it. When they push you away, and they might know that they appreciate the love and support even if they can’t deal with it at the moment.
  3. To ask you to educate yourself on mental health. While some of the stigmas have decreased around mental health unless you deal with it, either personally or through a loved one, it can be hard to understand. If you subscribe to the “just be happy,” mindset consider doing some research on the medical aspects of it, that might be easier to comprehend than the feelings part of it. Don’t stigmatize them if they feel like medication is what they need to do. It’s a personal choice and not an easy one.
  4. To remind you to check in with your loved ones. Even the happy ones. Because more often than you’d think the biggest smiles hide the most pain-filled hearts. Again, you don’t have to push or even ask “how are you,” but maybe just a “I love you, or a “I’d love to see you,” can mean the world when you feel alone.

There has been such an outpouring of love for Kristoff since his passing Sunday and I don’t doubt he had people who loved and supported him in life. Even as someone who suffers from anxiety and depression I can’t even imagine what the loss of his son in such a tragic way did to him.

Finally, #5 if you ever need to talk please feel free to email me. I may not be able to respond right away but I will respond. I’m not a therapist or mental health professional but I know sometimes talking to someone who gets it is a great start.

I love you, I love you, I love you,

Dia

Building Your Business With Storytelling Featuring Michelle Knight

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In this episode, I talk with Michelle Knight from Brandmerry. We dive into the entrepreneur mind including comparison and building a brand that attracts your dream clients. You will walk away with some real eye openers from this episode.

In this episode:

1:45 How she started her business.

4:48 Staying at your 9-5 when starting your business and the process of getting your first clients.

10:25 Her current business season and her plans.  How difficult times open our eyes in life and business.

15:10 She talks about how she works with her clients on branding and storytelling.

20:48 What is the biggest issue she sees when people are developing their brand and their story.

26:00 What she has learned about herself since she started her business.

30:35 Why it’s important to show up for your community.

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When deciding when to leave your day job you have to do what works for you and your family. Click To Tweet There are times when you have to hustle during certain seasons of your business. -Michelle Knight, Brandmerry Click To Tweet Life is short. Ask yourself what lights you up and what isn’t working. Click To Tweet It’s during those times of strong discomfort that we experience growth. Click To Tweet Working with the wrong people can make or break your happiness if you let it. Click To Tweet People should see your brand and think 'OMG I love that' or 'Ugh that’s not for me.' Click To Tweet If you’re trying to be for everyone, you’re not going to be for anyone. Click To Tweet Do you really know who you want to work with and are you positioning yourself? -Michelle Knight, Brandmerry Click To Tweet Hearts and comments are wonderful but that’s not going to pay your bills. Click To Tweet Stop comparing your chapter 2 to someone else’s chapter 11. -Michelle Knight, Brandmerry Click To Tweet The worst thing we can do pretend we have all our shit together as entrepreneurs. It’s a disservice to our community.-Michelle Knight, Brandmerry Click To Tweet Entrepreneurship is like a fast track in personal development.-Michelle Knight, Brandmerry Click To Tweet To be your best self you have to do the work. Click To Tweet

About Michelle

Michelle Knight is a Branding and Business Mentor and the podcast host of the Free to Be Podcast. Michelle has distinguished herself as an entrepreneur through the power of storytelling and its power to unite people,
especially women. She has helped transform the businesses lives of female entrepreneurs by supporting them in tapping into their story to create a standout brand and message, ultimately leading them to living a life of freedom. Michelle is living proof that no matter what obstacles life may throw at you, or chapters that may contribute to your story, you have the power to write your own ending. As a storyteller and branding expert herself, Michelle supports women to break free from the shoulds and create a life of time, financial and location freedom.

 

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Mentioned in this episode

The Artist’s Way

Brené Brown

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  • How do you connect to your audience?
  • What is something you decided to let go to be happier?
  • How do your favorite brands attract you using storytelling?
  • How did you design your brand? 
  • How did you decide your target customer? 

Resistance In Life and Business

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In the first new episode of the year, I dive into resistance. The thing that stops us in our tracks when we want to make a change or do something new. This has been something recently brought to my attention in multiple ways so I felt like I had to share.

In this episode:

The truth about resistance:

  1. We resist things as a way of protecting ourselves. Waiting doesn’t always protect you. It just makes you sit in discomfort longer.
  2. When I don’t do something I say I want to do or something I know I should be doing it isn’t because I don’t want to do it. There is a deeper reasons and it often isn’t really a good one.

Ways resistance shows up:

  1. Feeling sleepy
  2. Feeling unmotivated
  3. Being defensive
  4. Procrastination
  5. Over researching
  6. Over proofing/editing
  7. Playing small
  8. Self Doubt

The list of new habits I want to build and how they turned out in December.

Here is a sneak peek at the daily list:

  • Write 5 affirmations.
  • Do a meditation followed by journaling.
  • Do stretches before bed.
  • Do 15 minutes of working out.
  • Drink 1 celery juice in the morning.
  • Drink at least 8 glasses of water.
  • Drink one green tea.
  • Do one lesson or chapter for business growth or personal development.
  • Find 1 thing to sale, donate or throw away.

Questions to ask yourself when you feel stuck and aren’t sure why:

  • Where is this resistance coming from?
  • Is the resistance causing more harm than good?
  • Is letting myself sit in this zone of resistance really just keeping me away from my goals?
  • Is it causing me to play safe or see a threat that isn’t there?
  • What is the worst thing that can happen if I do this?
  • What is the best thing?

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Mentioned in this episode :

Where Did The Good Go by Tegan and Sara

Buddhify – My Meditation App

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  • How does resistance come up for you?
  • In what areas do you see it most?
  • How do you face it?
  • What is something you are glad you stopped resisting?