How I Make Big Decisions in Life & Business

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In episode 42 of Creatives Crushing Anxiety, I talk about the questions I ask myself before making big decisions. These simple questions help me feel more grounded and snap me back into reality when I’m going down the rabbit hole of analysis paralysis and self-doubt. They really just help with keeping yourself centered and not overthinking or freaking out.

In this episode:

  • The questions I ask myself when struggling with a big choice.
  • Two examples of this method in action.
  • Why we often get stuck in choice paralysis.

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I am an extraordinarily cautious person. Ask my friend and former editor M.L. Scarbrough I have been emailing her for years about everything from researching where to buy my car from what to name my blog. I like to think before I act. I can admit that sometimes I’m cautious to a fault.

One thing I hear and read online a lot is, “just do it.” We get so in our heads that we use being cautious as a procrastination technique.

I want to live stream, but I need to make sure I have all the points outlined first.

I want to start offering services, but I have to decide every single step of the process before I do. I don’t want to get a client and look dumb.

I want to start dating again, but I don’t want to attract the wrong men, so I need to make sure my dating profile is perfect.”

And so on…

The thing is sometimes you just need to dive right in. The problem is deciding when you need to test the waters and when you need to jump in head first.

The thing is sometimes you just need to dive right in. The problem is deciding when you need to test the waters and when you need to jump in head first. Click To Tweet

There are so many options nowadays. In The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz; the author talks about how a world full of options can be more confining than it is freeing. Yes, you could blog, you can start a youtube channel or a podcast. You can host in-person events or webinars. So many choices to basically do the same thing.

We get frozen when faced with so many options that we procrastinate deciding and never move forward.

We get frozen when faced with so many options that we procrastinate deciding and never move forward. Click To Tweet

I came up with a few questions to ask yourself when you get stuck in choice procrastination.

  • Is there a smaller way I can test this out before diving in?
  • What is there to lose if I do this? What is there to gain?
  • Will doing this limit me in the future if it doesn’t work out?

Example 1:

Now to break that down. Let’s say you want to host your first webinar. You’re terrified that no one will show up or worse someone will, and you will be horrible.

Is there a smaller way I can test this out before diving in?

Yes, I could announce a live stream on Instagram, periscope or Facebook and give the talk. That way there is no major setup, and I can practice speaking live.

What is there to lose if I do this?

I die of embarrassment. No one shows up. People show up, and I get trolled.

What is there to gain?

I gain new subscribers or clients. I realize it’s fun.

Will doing this limit me in the future if it doesn’t work out?

No. If it goes bad, I can try again later or try something else.

It’s not some super complicated formula it’s just about checking yourself.

Example 2:

Now let’s say it’s something a little less black and white. In this example, you want to take a job in a new city.

Is there a smaller way I can test this out before diving in?

I could ask if I could work remotely for the first six months.

What is there to lose if I do this?

I could hate it and end up in a city where I know no one.

What is there to gain?

This would be a huge increase in pay. It could propel my career. I can start over fresh.

Will doing this limit me in the future if it doesn’t work out?

Maybe. If I quit my current job, I may not have a position to come back to if the new job doesn’t work out. I could always get another job, and I could try to sublease the new apartment and move home if the move is too hard.

See how you could just calmly look at this. Often when you sit down and write the “obstacles” associated with moving forward you discover they aren’t that scary.

Often when you sit down and write the “obstacles” associated with moving forward you discover they aren’t that scary. Click To Tweet

I recommend doing this after taking 5 or 10 minutes to sit in silence and just focus on your breathing don’t let your thoughts overtake you. Then sit down and ask yourself these questions. The point of them is to make you move forward regardless of your reservations. Maybe you’ll discover you aren’t ready to take the step or that you can take a different one but this way you aren’t stuck.

Stop being stuck. The questions I ask myself when I can't make a big decision. Click To Tweet

Mentioned in Episode:

8 Thoughts Girls Have Online Dating

Episode 26: Processes For A Great Client Experience 

The Big Leap By Gay Hendricks 

The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz 

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Publicity The Right Way With Susan Young

In this episode of Creatives Crushing Anxiety, I interview the founder of Get In Front Communications, Susan Young. We dive into so many wonderful things in this episode. If you have been struggling with your elevator pitch, making connections when networking or going in circles on how to get your messaging right then this episode is for you.

In this episode:

  • She talks about her interview with Yanis Krums.
  • How we all have the platform to get our content out there and how we all have the power now.
  • The biggest change she has seen in PR.
  • How you can get past the rejectionists when trying to connect with people.
  • What frustrates her about the industry.
  • Why she doesn’t listen to the news before bed.
  • What is a big problem she has seen when working with entrepreneurs?
  • How long it should take you to get your pitch across.
  • Why we need to deal with the negative messages in our head.
  • The biggest mistake she sees when people make their elevator pitch.
  • How to write your elevator pitch.
  • The before and after she sees working with her clients.
  • The driving force behind the San Antonio Women’s Entrepreneur Association and how they keep it a community women entreprenuers want to be apart of.
  • Her rule about giving out business cards.
  • The advice her mother gave her when she wanted to give up.
  • Her advice on being present and listening.
  • Her favorite quote and how it can help you personally and professionally.

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Susan Young

Susan Young is the CEO of Get in Front Communications, an 18-year-old PR and communications training company. Susan is an award-winning radio news reporter, PR entrepreneur, storyteller and speaker. She works with business owners who want to gain the confidence to self-promote and increase their visibility, credibility and revenue. Susan is a certified practitioner in NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP), the breakthrough communication, sales and psychology model that’s used by CEOs, world leaders, politicians and top athletes. Susan has been named “One of the Top 75 Badass Women on Twitter.”

 

 

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  • Do you have your elevator pitch down?
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  • What was your favorite thing about the episode?

Escaping Debt With Ericka From Tailor-Made Budgets

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In this episode of Creatives Crushing Anxiety, I interview Ericka Young. Ericka is a financial coach who helps women and couples get their debt paid down and financial lives in check. If you’ve been suffering from debt and the anxiety that can come with it then you need to listen to this episode!

In this episode:

  • The steps Ericka takes when she starts working with a new person.
  • Why you need to have financial goals.
  • Her biggest financial regret.
  • Why you need to know your credit score.
  • How one of her clients went from a 16% interest rate to a 5% interest rate on her car note.
  • Her she decided her book topic.
  • How she helps people recognize their hereditary money habits.
  • How she better understood her husband’s money story.
  • Why she doesn’t say, “we’re broke” and what she says instead.
  • Why the words you use for money are so impactful.
  • Why you sometimes need an outside party to keep you on track with your spending.
  • How you don’t have to say, “no” every time.
  • If she thinks how you should start saving first or paying debt off first.
  • How to tackle the student loan debt.
  • Why she thinks you need to try cash for 30 days.
  • The thing she sees people are most likely to bend on their goals for.
  • How long it took her and her husband to get out of 100k in debt.
  • The luxuries we both make sure we fit into our budget.
  • My challenge for you based on Ericka’s suggestion for a better life.

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Escaping Debt With Ericka From Tailor-Made BudgetsEricka Young is the president and founder of Tailor-Made Budgets which she opened in 2005 after she and her husband Chris climbed their way out of nearly $100,000 in debt. She became a certified financial coach by Dave Ramsey’s Lampo Group in 2006 and combines her passion for helping people with creative debt reduction techniques so everyone can have a path to financial freedom. Ericka is a recognized financial expert who inspires people to significantly improve their finances, family and their future with a solid plan. Ericka’s Best-Selling book, “Naked and Unashamed: 10 Money Conversations Every Couple Must Have” was released online in February 2017 worldwide. She currently teaches her message of debt freedom through her e-newsletters, personal and group coaching, workshops and speaking engagements. Ericka, Chris and their two teenage daughters, Faith and Olivia reside in Fishers, IN.

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Mentioned in this episode:

Naked and Unashamed – 10 Money Conversations Every Couple Must Have

Dave Ramsey’s Baby Steps

The Power of Strategic PR in Online Business

Money Challenges:

  1. Only use cash for 30 days straight.
  2. Look at every single card statement and receipts you have for the last month and break down how you are spending your money.

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  • When starting a relationship how soon do you talk about money?
  • What is your biggest debt?
  • Are you a cash user or plastic user?
  • If you were debt-free what is one way you’d treat yourself?
  • What are some ways you celebrate without spending a lot of money?
  • What is something you have no problem spending money on?