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How To Survive Your Hometown Holiday

In this episode of Creatives Crushing Anxiety, I share tips for keeping your anxiety at bay during your family visits. It is the most wonderful time of the year but it’s also the time where depression, anxiety and stress are at a all time high. Here are a few tips to survive going to your hometown during the holidays.

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I love living alone. I’ve had that privilege for nearly 7 years. I also love San Antonio, which I’ve been a resident of for over 11 years. One major thing I love about where I live now is how different it is from my hometown. I love my family but I am from a very small town and being there for more than two days after living in the “big city” for 8 years can feel a little like torture.

But maybe that isn’t your problem when you go home for the holidays. Maybe your older siblings still treat you like you’re 6. Perhaps you have different religious views as an adult than your parents do. Maybe you have nothing in common with your cousins. Maybe you really just like your own space and even if it’s family that many people makes you feel a little anxious.

Whatever you dread about going home for the holidays here are a few tips to make the trip more enjoyable.

Make Plans to Meet An Old Friend

You can have too much of a good thing, and that includes family time. While your mom may give you, “Christmas is about family,” speech as you head out the door for happy hour with your childhood friends it really benefits the family to take a break from non-stop togetherness. 

Every Christmas Eve once my parents go to bed I go and have a few drinks with my friends from high school. It’s the perfect excuse to get out of the house and feel some of the independence I’ve grown to love.

Act Like An Adult

One thing a lot of young adults hate about going back home is that their family seems to be stuck in the past when it comes to how old they are. Short of actually sitting them at the kid’s table they pretty much spend the entire holiday treating them the same way they have all their lives.

Instead of throwing a tantrum to get them to stop, handle it like an adult.

If your boss treated you like you weren’t a good worker would you pout or would you work hard to show what you’re capable of?

Hopefully the latter.

Tell your family about your life as an adult. Talk about your goals and plans for obtaining them. Try to provide insightful responses to the conversation instead of sitting in the corner watching them as you did as a child.

Finally, accept that these people have known you since before you discovered your fingers. No matter how much you impress them in certain aspects they will still see you as a kid. Try not to take it too personally. Most of your family probably remember where you were born and it’s hard to wrap their mind around you being a full grown adult when they only get to see you a few times a year.

Offer To Help

Hosting is stressful. Offer your hostess a break (whoever the hostesses may be: dad, mom, sister, uncle, aunt, grandparent, whoever). If it’s setting the table, getting guest refills or chopping celery, any little thing will be appreciated. 

If the host doesn’t feel like they are doing everything they will be a lot less stressed and there will be a lot less tension and frustration in the air.

Plus being helpful will keep you busy, make you feel useful and show how grown up you’ve become.

Bring a Flask

I’m not saying I can’t handle being around my family sober but a glass of wine doesn’t hurt. In my case my parents don’t drink so we don’t have alcohol during holidays (something I didn’t realize was missing from the festivities until spending Thanksgiving with friends and their families the past few years) Part of the great thing about being an adult is you’re allowed to drink! So if your family does drink tell Cousin Pam to pass the adult cider!

Bring Part of Your Current Routine With You

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Photo From Pixabay

Do you run every morning?

Do you end every night listening to a guided meditation?

Can you not fall asleep until you’ve unwinded with a little F.R.I.E.N.D.S on Netflix?

 Don’t think because you aren’t at home you can’t still have some normalcy in your schedule. Instead of pouting because your gym doesn’t have a local branch where you’re spending the holiday, see if one of your relatives wants to take a walk with you or if your sister wants to bust out one of your mom’s old jazzercise DVDs.

Don’t abandon the things that keep you happy just because you’re not in your regular environment.

Set Boundaries

The holidays are meant for loved ones and good times. Do what you can to unplug and stop working. Of course, I know during certain times like after Thanksgiving you or a client may be launching something big like a sale or special. Do what you can to get as much done ahead of time. It’s vital for you to set boundaries beforehand. If you absolutely have to do work over the holiday set the expectation when you will be online and when you won’t. If possible find a place to be alone when you’re working so you can work more efficiently. It’s hard to proof an email when your cousin’s two-year-old is throwing a tantrum two-feet away.

Make The Most Of It

For better or worse these loud and crazy humans are your family and they love you. Enjoy the time you have with them before you don’t have them anymore. Life is short and loved ones should be appreciated. 

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Do it for love and Happy Whatever Doesn’t Offend You,

Dia

Behind the Anxiety: My 29th Birthday!

This week I am taking you behind the anxiety. It’s my birthday and as always that is a time of reflection. In this episode, I discuss some of the anxiety that has come up for me lately and how I’m dealing.

I also talk about:

  • My journaling practices
  • Changing Paths in Life
  • How life has been since leaving my 9-5 and more.

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Things I Can’t Get Enough of Spring 2018 Reviews

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I haven’t done one of these in a while, but I felt like I needed to because there is so much I’ve been loving lately and wanted to make sure you had a chance to check it out.

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help‎


So as many of you know I have generalized anxiety. Because of this and other reasons I regularly go to therapy. My therapist recommended I read this book. Full disclosure a few months ago it was the deal of the day on Audible, I considered it but decided not to get it. To quote Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman, “Big mistake. Huge.”

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So I had to use a full credit for it but still worth it. This book really opened my eyes to the way I am in relationships and why things haven’t worked out in the past.

Proud Mary Taraji P Henson

So when I decided to write a new Things I Can’t Get Enough of it was because of Proud Mary, then I realized if I was being honest I just love Taraji P Henson. Between Baby Boy, Empire and her memoir, Round The Way Girl, I find myself interested in anything she is apart of. She is brilliant, funny, strong, talented and just an inspiration.

Jessica Jones

So I’m so late to the game on this. As a huge Krysten Ritter fan, I can’t tell you what took me so long to jump on the Jessica Jones wagon, but I finally started season 1 (yes 1, you read that correctly). It’s so good! If you haven’t watched it yet, check it out. Also, bonus if you’re late like me you have two full seasons. Original fans had to wait over a year for season 2 of the show.

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Alexa and Katie

This show hit me like a ton of bricks. On Good Friday we got off of work early and the next thing I knew I was on my sofa and 3 hours in! I watched the whole first season in a day. Alexa is starting high school after a summer of fighting cancer. By her side is her next door neighbor and best friend, Katie. It gives you all the feels and is funny. Also, a bonus for all us 80s/90s kids Tiffani Amber Thiessen plays Alexa’s mom… yes, Kelly Kapowski! Great show to watch with the fam or by yourself as a 28-year-old who enjoys clean humor as much as she loves raunchy comedy.
It’s already been renewed!!!!

Zach Morris is Trash and A Very Special Episode

Shout out to my client Sarah at Adulting With ADHD for introducing me to this. The geniuses at Funny or Die dissect our favorite shows from the 80s/90s. In one web series, he explains why Zach Morris from Saved By The Bell wasn’t really the story’s hero, but it’s villain. Then in A Very Special Episode, he breaks down those “serious” episodes of our favorite light-hearted classics in a hilarious way. Here are my favorite episodes of each. Don’t take it too seriously it’s funny. Also any time, I’m feeling down these always make me laugh. ADULT LANGUAGE WARNING!!!

The ‘Family Ties’ When Tom Hanks Was A Raging Alcoholic

The Time Zack Morris Gave Himself A Homeless Girl For Christmas

The Guild

recently Audible’s Daily Deal (Can you tell I have an audible problem?) was Felicia Day’s book “You’re never weird on the internet” this lead me to her web show, The Guild. This show is so funny and awkward but awesome. I’m not a gamer. I do like the occasional Call of Duty session and am great at Bubble Mania but not a gamer, and I still enjoy this show. Bonus: The episodes are hella short, and you can probably finish a season on your lunch break.

The Last Black Unicorn


I’ve been a Tiffany Haddish fan since watching her on The Carmichael Show the past few years but over the past year she has taken her career to a whole new level and I’m happy for her. In her book The Last Black Unicorn she shares her life story and talks about everything from the wart she had on her head, not knowing how to read in high school and using a Groupon to tour New Orleans swamps with Will and Jada. It’s hilarious, motivating and entertaining from start to finish.

Black Panther

I could write an entire post about how amazing black panther was. I don’t go to the theaters often, but this was a movie I had to support. The entire cast was amazing…P.S. if you know Michael B. Jordan, give him my number I think we’d be happy together. I can’t even put into words what this film meant to me. If you haven’t seen it go do it now. Wakanda Forever!

Star

So I’ve been a fan of Empire since season one, and when I heard about Lee Daniel’s Star, I knew I needed to add it to my DVR. I seriously enjoyed the first season, but the 2nd is even better. The music is amazing, and the characters are so complex. It’s always beautiful watching someone chase a dream.

The Confused Millennial Podcast

Obviously, I’m a fan of audio entertainment so when I heard my friend Rachel was coming out with a podcast I was super excited. What makes it different? sometimes her husband Eric joins her behind the mic and that makes for some interesting banner. If you’re a young adult figuring your life out, this podcast is for you.
Check out my interview with Rachel, Embracing the Confusion on Creatives Crushing Anxiety here.

Superstore

If you are one of the millions who would freak out if The Office got taken off of Netflix, then you need to watch Superstore. It’s basically The Office, minus the mockumentary style and the office setting. Instead of following coworkers around an office building you follow them around the superstore they work in call Cloud 9. This ensemble cast is lead by America Ferrera and is hilarious!

Reboots – Roseanne and Will And Grace

I know there has been a lot of crap about the Roseanne and Trump thing but, to be honest. It seems really realistic that that character would have voted for him. I remember watching it growing up, and they’ve done a great job staying true to the original series.
I didn’t watch Will and Grace until college. When I met the Will to my Grace, we proceeded to watch all ten seasons on DVD, and since then the show has always held a special place in my heart. So when it came back, I was ecstatic.

SPOILER ALERT: I was always curious because the original series ends with Will and Grace not talking for 18 years and then reconnecting when they take their kids to college. So I was curious how the show would come back, well they handled that quick by saying it never happened and just picking back up ten years after the series ended. It’s just as hilarious as ever.

For the People

I am a Shonda fan, and I love how this show is a mix of early Grey’s Anatomy meets How to Get Away With Murder. While it had a bumpy start, it got really interesting, and I already have favorite characters. What’s it about? Brand new baby lawyers are trying to get experience and make a name for themselves in the legal world.

Everything Sucks

It’s bittersweet to add this one to the list. Because since it premiered, it has been canceled by Netflix. Had this been a network show I might have hoped Netflix would have seen how amazing it was and opened its doors to it. This show was real and sad and funny, and all the things that being a young teenager are. R.I.P Everything Sucks. Your cancellation sucked.

So tell me have you watched/listened to/read any of the things mentioned above. What did you enjoy the past few months? Tell me in the comments.