5 Tips For Being a More Confident Blogger Offline

5 Tips For Being a More Confident Blogger Offline

Meera Kothand sent out an amazing email the other day; it got me to thinking about confidence and vulnerability in blogging. (If you aren’t on her email list, check it out she is the queen of email!)  Her email was all about the importance of having your elevator pitch. She started the email with a scenario that was all too common for me, having someone ask you “What do you blog about?”

It has happened to me before… The thing is, in an online forum I could tell you in a second what my blog was about, what my goal was, who my target audience was…but the second I’m in real life, it’s like, “I write the words on the page about the things and the stuff. I like it,” haha seriously I have been that awkward.

I was having a photo shoot at a beautiful local shopping center when my amazing photographer insisted he gets some shots inside of a restaurant. After what felt like the most awkward ten minutes, of my life he finished. Two older ladies stopped me and asked, “Are you going to be on T.V.?

I laughed, “No it’s a photoshoot for my website. I’m a blogger.”

Oh, my daughter in law is a blogger in Dallas. She blogs about food. What do you blog about?

Then something happened that doesn’t happen to me very often I was at a loss for word. I seriously do something for my blog every day, and I just stumbled on my words, “My blog is about blogging.”

She looked at me like I had stopped speaking English. I excused myself and pushed the awkwardness out of my mind.

But after reading Meera’s email I got to thinking, it was very true, you need to be able to talk about what you do with ease. Then I realized that anytime I’ve been at a conference I had my elevator pitch down packed. I was in my element I was with my people; there was no need to worry that other bloggers would judge me or not get it. So why did I seem to lose that ability when talking to people not apart of the online community. Even when my friends ask me about it I respond short and get embarrassed when they tell other people I’m a blogger.

So I started thinking why?

Why am I ashamed of such a big part of my life?

Blogging probably takes up more of my mind space than anything else in my life. Hell, I’m writing this post at 11 p.m. because I was inspired by the email. One thing I’ve gotten really well at over the past few years is understanding the vulnerability that comes with blogging. Then I realized that as important as the vulnerability is for making connections as a blogger, confidence was as significant for being successful as a blogger.   

That’s when it hit me; it wasn’t about shame. It was about confidence. I have seen a lot of people create careers online and not just the big six-figure bloggers but people who have created an amazing online business based on services and products, digital and otherwise. I have no doubt that it is a viable business model. The reason I was shying away probably had more to do with the fact that I didn’t feel like I had the right to be a badass online business owner.  I work hard, and I know I do. So I need to own it and be proud of it!

5 Tips For Being a More Confident Blogger Offline

Set Goals

One of the most important ways to be more confident in what you’re doing is to know your end goal. Why are you blogging? What is it that you hope to get out of it? In your ideal world, what does your blog/online business look like? Setting clear and attainable goals is a great way see your blog as more than a hobby.

I love to paint. I don’t do it often, and most of the time I paint quotes or songs lyrics as a therapeutic practice. I don’t too much share my paintings with others or post them on social media. It’s just a nice hobby that’s for me. I don’t have an interest in selling my art or even taking professional classes. On the opposite side, my blog and freelancing is a source of income, a passion project and potentially one day my primary source of income. I set goals for each month and plan how to reach them.

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Create a Game Plan

Anyone will tell you that goals are great, but actions are better. If you have a goal, you need to develop a strategy to get that goal accomplished. Having a plan and system in place to reach your goals will keep you on track.

When I paint, I don’t say, “Okay, I want to have this done by next Tuesday and am going to work on it this Wednesday and Saturday.” No, I’ll find that I am feeling, sad or happy or inspired and I have some free time. I might say, “I think I might get some painting done while I watch Jane the Virgin.

When I have a guest post or sponsored post due I say, “Okay that post needs to be done by Tuesday so I’m going to finish up the draft Saturday and work on the graphics afterward.

See the difference? When you make a serious plan for how you plan to get goals accomplished, you can track your progress and feel more confident on your path.

Be Vocal About It

Stop being shy about your goals. I won’t lie to you and say that everyone will hear the words, “I’m a blogger,” or “I’m an online business owner,” rave and totally understand it. In fact talking to anyone who doesn’t blog or doesn’t know any other bloggers will probably ask you, “What exactly does that mean?” So you raise your head high and tell them what it means.

Most people won’t know what you’re talking about and will have questions just out of sheer curiosity, don’t think that it’s because they don’t take you seriously but remember that they probably genuinely don’t know about it. Enlighten them.

Also remember that you never know who you’re talking to, they might be your next dream client.

Oh, you do social media management? I have wanted to start a page on The Facebook for my store. How much would something like that be?”

I seriously recommend practicing answering this question out loud in front of the mirror at least once a day to get in the habit of saying it naturally and confidently.

“I have a finance blog. I teach college students how to balance their budgets and save for the future.” 

Find Your Support Systems

You need people in your inbox telling you how much your post meant to them just as much as you need a friend to sit on your couch when you get down because of a negative comment or rejection for a submission and tell you to close the laptop and have some fun.

You need to find your online tribe but also your offline support system. It’s important to have people in your life to vent to and bounce ideas off of that get what you’re trying to do. It’s important to have people in the real world who can see things from the outside in and offer you love and support when you have so much going on.

Find Your Mentors and Keep Learning.

So imagine if someone asked you 15 years ago if you could create a MySpace page for them you could probably have hopped online and created it in a few minutes but if someone asked you how to create one today you might not be too confident since you probably haven’t used MySpace since 2007.

Think of blogging and business like that; things are always evolving and changing. What was popular yesterday might be irrelevant tomorrow. Large companies roll out system wide changes overnight on consumers all the time.

Always be willing to listen and learn. Find trustful sources to look to for advice and to learn from.

When you know that you are staying up to date on the industry, then you can feel more confident talking about it.

Note: On the opposite side of this don’t try to consume and learn EVERYTHING. You will just burn out. I wasn’t able to start new projects in my blog and business because I was trying to follow the advice of every different professional I could find. I was in information overload and spinning my tail.

Confidence isn’t something you wake up with overnight. Confidence is something you develop over time as you grow your skills and abilities.

How do you handle the, “What do you blog about,” question? How do you stay confident when blogging? Do you have your elevator pitch? Tell me in the comments.


  1. Joanna

    Support systems are so huge! I love this post;)

  2. Neena

    Hi Dia,
    What a great article!
    Sometimes it is hard to explain what we do because people want to hear about things that they understand.
    Doctor, lawyer, accountant – easy to talk about.
    Blogger? Not so much.
    Don’t worry you are not alone in that awkwardness.
    I really like what you are doing here with your blog.

  3. Kristie

    Having a support system is so important. It can be hard as a blogger to have that (offline). Most of your friends and family don’t really understand why you blog.

  4. Esther

    Setting goals has been the best thing for me as a blogger. Before, I was always like maybe I’ll do it tomorrow. Now, I have weekly and monthly goals and it helps keep me on track.

  5. Chelsie Brown

    This is a great post, especially for me as I am just getting started. Setting Goals and Creating a Game Plan are probably the hardest for me but I think I need to really sit down and think about them. Thanks for sharing!

  6. Heather Denniston

    There are so many comments I have for this. I agree with you totally. So much more articulate online than in person and I just spent the last twenty years seeing 60 patients a day speaking confidently. I think I don’t truly OWN what I do yet so I can’t communicate it. Talk to me next year. I might OWN it more confidently!

  7. Jennifer (JenuineMom)

    Wow, these are great tips! Blogging is just a side thing right now, so I rarely have to tell anyone that I’m a blogger. I always just say I’m a writer, because I am (and that includes the blogging part). But the day may come when I have to be specific, and I will admit — I feel shy about saying I’m a blogger. I think bloggers get a bad rap, and are seen as amateurs, but that is SO NOT TRUE now that I’ve really dug in deep. So thank you for this. I am sure it will come in handy one day!

  8. Madeline Casey

    I love this article! I have been thinking lately how I need to define my purpose as a blogger and I really feel like I’ve found it! I’m so much more excited about blogging now that I have some goals and a game plan 🙂

  9. Dia

    Thanks Joanna!

  10. Dia

    Awe thanks Neena. I hope you are doing well!

  11. Dia

    Yeah. Your offline support system is all about taking your mind off the blogging. But gaining confidence and being able to talk about it will help them understand.

  12. Dia

    I love that!

  13. Dia

    That’s so beautiful. I can’t wait to see what you do!

  14. Dia

    You are so right people do hear blogger and think negative things, or like it’s not hard work. We have to just keep doing what’s right and they will figure it out.

  15. Dia

    I hope you found it useful.

  16. Dia

    I believe in you!

  17. Dia

    Good luck. Finish 2016 with a bang!

  18. Shane

    It’s so funny that we can often get flustered when outsiders bring up our blog in real life. It pays to be confident and proud!

  19. Dia

    It really does! Thanks Shane.

  20. Justine Y

    I really loved this post Dia. I especially liked what you said about most people being generally curious. I think I always just assume that people will judge me or be rolling their eyes on the inside, but really, blogging is so much more mainstream then it used to be, I think most people grasp the concept that it’s s legitimate thing, but don’t know a lot about it.

  21. Dia

    Thanks Justine, it’s true. I personally have to remind myself not to automatically go on the defensive about it and try to help them understand.

  22. Kari

    Great tips! It can definitely be awkward to do anything blog/vlog related in public. Especially when it comes to cameras and videos.

  23. Dia

    Just talking about it can be an awkward position. I’d love to hear more about what type of videos you’re doing offline in relation to your blog 🙂

  24. Mistle

    I remember everyone said have your elevator speech ready for when I attended my first blogging conference. I had no idea what to say. So it got me thinking. Love all of these tips! I agree that having a support system is so important!!! It makes a huge difference.

  25. Dia

    It is what keeps you going.

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