A Twitter Chat Review
Last month I was lucky enough to be asked to be a guest in the She Knows Twitter Chat, How to Deal with a Workplace Bully (And other job culture secrets).
It was actually the first twitter chat I participated in so it was such an honor to not only participate but to be one of the three panelist chosen.
This chat was so much fun and earlier this week I had one of those “Should have had a V8 moments” and realized that since the chat was in the middle of a work day a lot of my readers probably missed it. So I wanted to share the questions I was asked, my answers and go a little more into detail about what I meant by them, because, let’s be honest Twitter’s 140 character limit isn’t exactly ideal when trying to get a point across on a topic you’re passionate about.
What are some key mistakes you’ve seen leadership make when creating a work culture?
Being too hands on. You don’t get real input if your employees are worried about being different from the boss. I think having an environment where employees can kind of self-motivate and be themselves is what eventually highlights the company’s future leaders, generates new ideas and moves the company forward.
Also leaders having favorites doesn’t encourage originality either. The other workers either resent them or copy them, so no new ideas get put in the mix.
We hear a lot about cool break rooms, but what do you think is most important for good office environment?
A real safe place. I stopped taking my lunch break at the office because I’d get approached with work during my recharge time and it was so frustrating. We don’t have a traditional break room with a table so the conference room is normally where people eat their lunch, if they want to get away from their desks but it’s still not taking a mental break. Breaks are important, especially in an office setting or creative job because you really can over work your brain.
I also think a T.V. in the break room is nice, it gives it a more relaxed vibe…until people start fighting over the remote. J
What’s the biggest workplace challenge you’ve had to overcome? How did you do it?
I’m 1 of 3 twenty-somethings at my office so I have experienced some age bullying. I just have to ignore it and remember what I bring to the office.
I’ll often get comments like, “That’s before your time,” or “Dia wouldn’t know anything about that.” I have to bite my tongue because sometimes I do want to say,” It’s a good thing that’s before my time because I probably wouldn’t be able to help you with your computer as much as I do, if it wasn’t.”
It’s just a very condescending way to talk to someone in a professional setting, especially when you rely so heavily on them. Sometimes they don’t take you seriously or thing it’s okay to make a joke at your expense just because of your age and it’s not.
People should realize having different generations is a good thing because it brings in different skill sets, mindsets and knowledge, than if you only had one age group.
Age discrimination goes both ways.
I did have to speak out when one coworker was just rude and made it clear I was college educated valued member of the team and not their secretary.
What would you do if you didn’t like a coworker that you had to work with often?
Stay professional. I’ve had a number of coworkers I didn’t enjoy working with but you work with them, so it’s your job to put up with them.
You get management involved if it starts interfering with your ability to work. It’s different if you just think they are an annoying person versus if they are a bully or your working styles clash to the point where you can’t successful complete projects together.
How can diversity – or lack thereof – impact company culture?
Diversity allows change and growth. If you only hire type X, then you don’t get any new ideas. You sabotage your business and doom it to be stuck in place. People always say “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it,” but sometimes that’s a limiting mindset…it may not be broke but maybe it can be better.
Work is a great for meeting people, but what boundaries should there be in workplace friendships?
Feel people out. You’re not at work for friends but it’s bound to happen. Like any relationship, test the waters.
I work with a lot of conservatives so I don’t talk politics with them because I won’t change their mind just cause tension and work is stressful enough without bringing in that sort of thing.
Complaining about work is normal… but how do you know if you’re in a work friendship that is toxic?
If all you talk about together is the negative. If they always point out things trying to make you frustrated. Work friends are great to vent to because they get it but it shouldn’t just be negative every time you go to happy hour or lunch. There are other things going on in the world and you’re only at work 40 hours a week.
How do you tell if your workplace dissatisfaction is about the job… or about you?
Can it be solved? Why are you unhappy? Is it the hours? The pay? If there isn’t a clear answer move on. I had one job that made me depressed. The amount of money and vacation time didn’t matter, I needed out. It was ruining other parts of my life. Also you have to see how you feel when you are off of work. I used to have one position and when I’d be out with friends and someone asked me what I did for a living I felt myself get irritated just because I was thinking about work. Getting out of bed felt incredibly hard on work days. I literally felt like I was depressed. I’d get home and feel like I’d been running a marathon or had been beaten up. Sometimes I’d go in the bathroom and cry at work because I was so unhappy doing what I was doing. It was obvious that was the issue. Often people assume pay will make it better, working from home or more vacation but if you hate the position that still won’t be enough.
I want to thank Collen over at SheKnows Media for inviting me to participate!
I hope you guys enjoyed my twitter chat answers. Now I want to know what you think on the topic of job culture and office bullies.
Pick your favorite question(s) and answer below. 🙂
- What are some key mistakes you’ve seen leadership make when creating a work culture?
- We hear a lot about cool break rooms, but what do you think is most important for good office environment?
- What’s the biggest workplace challenge you’ve had to overcome? How did you do it?
- What would you do if you didn’t like a coworker that you had to work with often?
- How can diversity – or lack thereof – impact company culture?
- Work is a great for meeting people, but what boundaries should there be in workplace friendships?
- Complaining about work is normal… but how do you know if you’re in a work friendship that is toxic?
- How do you tell if your workplace dissatisfaction is about the job… or about you?
Also be sure to check out my SheKnows post 6 Ways to Win Over The Co-worker Who Hates you