I love blogging...really I do

I Love Blogging…Really I Do

In my whole 27 years if I’ve learned one thing it’s this, no matter how much you love something some days you just don’t like it. Think about it, no matter how much you love your significant other, best friend, sister, whoever sometimes you just want to slap them and tell them to leave you alone for an hour (or six).
This is how I’ve been feeling about a lot of things lately, blogging being one of them. I’ve just need a bit of a relationship vacation from my blog OR a break  to mix it up.

Friends We were on a break
Gif from Giphy

I feel like I’ve gotten in this churn and burn routine that is just stressing me out and making me more annoyed and (I’ll say it) more sensitive to certain comments. I am by nature a sensitive person, always have been probably always will be. I’m not as sensitive as I was as a child life has taken care of a lot of that but lately, I’ve been just feeling so emotionally drained that even the slightest hint of negativity, condescension or rudeness in a comment on one of my posts, and I just feel beat up.
I know as someone putting their thoughts and feelings on display for the whole world to read and dissect, I need to tough skin to an extent. For the most part this hasn’t been that hard for me but lately, I have just been feeling emotionally weak. I won’t go into the details of my personal life and what’s been keeping me up at night/ dominating all my emotional energy.

What works most of the time might not work all of the time.

For a while now I’ve had a pretty good system on my blog (or at least one I feel comfortable with). I’ve been publishing twice a week on Monday and Thursday. Monday a piece about blogging/business and Thursday  a fun piece about whatever I fancy.
Maybe because I spent the first part of July either out of town and celebrating my birthday I went two weeks barely opening my laptop and if we’re being honest it was pretty nice. But of course, when Monday of last week came my piece was not ready to post but I managed to wrap it up after work but I made a pretty conscious decision that there wouldn’t be a Thursday post. I just couldn’t bring myself to write or publish when my heart wasn’t into it.
Ironically writing this feels pretty therapeutic considering how unattractive my laptop has been to me lately. Untill now it just isn’t where my head has been at. Truth be told I doubt a single reader will notice the change in my posting frequency and I’m not writing this to say, “Forgive me for posting less,” or “Let me explain myself….”  I am writing it to say if you feel this way and want to take a break or change things up you aren’t alone and we are okay. It’s okay!

Stepping Back to Refocus

As I said I have a lot going on so I’m made a decision based on that and something my friend Lauren at L Bee and the Money Tree decided to do. I’m cutting back on blogging for the next 2 months or so. I’m only promising one blog post a week and one newsletter a month. I want to take this time to work on my personal life and work on blog/business related projects that have been put on the back burner because writing 2 full posts a week with 3 day marketing cycles, while working full-time, trying to freelance, make time for family and friends, going to the gym and going back into the dating world takes up a lot of time. I know I have wasted a lot of time lately, I’ll be straight with you I’ve spent a few Sunday afternoons wallowing or hungover. But right now I type this post sitting in Starbucks instead of taking the nap I didn’t really need and staying home.

Keep going

So if I am so uninterested right now why don’t I just stop? Why not just call it quits. Get a huge chunk of my free time back and lower my stress level? Because of the feeling I had after I pushed out the first few sentences today and then the words just took me away, because the fact that although that Mango Black Tea is seriously demanding it escapes from my bladder I just want to keep writing. Because I ended the relationship with the person who inspired me to even start it and maybe part of me needs this to be the good thing that came out of it.
So now that I have rambled on for 700+ words… for your reading pleasure.

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The 5 things I remind myself when I want to give up on blogging.

  1. Why I started- Because I love writing. I always have and I think I’d miss it. Without the responsibility I gave myself of a blog I might not make time to do it anymore.
  2. That I control the delete button- I mean I am basically like the supreme ruler of the universe when it comes to the comment section of my blog. Hate gets no place!
  3. All the nice people and comments/ my intention- I write my blog for 3 reasons because I enjoy it. To provide entertainment for people. To hopefully help people. Not everyone will get that, not everyone will understand it, not everyone will appreciate it, but I do.
  4. Freebies- Yeah that’s shallow and not enough reason to keep blogging all on it’s on but damn it’s a nice perk. I haven’t bought protein powder, shampoo or conditioner in MONTHS!
  5. Safe space- This is my platform. It’s pink and black. Fun and flirty. My space.
  6. Because I can- There are places in the world where women can’t just hop online and share their thoughts and experiences. Hell, years ago a black woman in America especially wouldn’t get to really enjoy her freedom of speech.

So what keeps you going when you feel like you are done? What made you start? Have you ever cut back to take a little mental R&R? Tell me below!

56 comments

  1. erica avery

    I love blogging so much too! It is my favorite outlet!! Keep writing!

  2. Georgiana

    Nothing wrong with cutting back for a season while you set other parts of life in order. I always enjoy seeing what you have to say and what you’re up to—plus your blog is super helpful!

  3. valerie hansen

    I love this post and I feel exactly the same on all of it! I have been getting burnt out on blogging and it has added a lot of stress to my plate, but wont give it up for all the reasons you mentioned. I used to feel pressure to post a certain amount of times per week, and now I do what I want. I just took two weeks off and it was great!

    BEst to you in all your endeaveors!

    Valerie
    xo

  4. Amber

    First of all, love that you started with a Friends gif. They always make my day better haha.
    I totally get what you mean about wanting to take a break from this though. It’s really hard to put together quality work when your heart isn’t in it. It’s best to relax. Then you’ll come back with refreshed ideas and motivation!

    Enjoy the lighter work load 🙂

  5. Cori

    I haven’t been following your blog long enough to figure this out, but do you take breaks occasionally? For example, despite having my laptop and an internet connection when I was at my inlaws for Christmas, I decided to take a hiatus for that week and start again when I got home. I’m not trying to talk you out of slowing down for the next two months, but maybe you could work scheduled breaks into your editorial calendar.

  6. Samantha

    I had to take a break in June because I felt I was getting burnt out. It was nice to step back and miss it, a little. Missing it made me realize just how important it was to me! 🙂

    xoxo, Sam | thehauntedhousewife.com

  7. Paola

    I agree, I have just taken a couple of weeks off, mainly because of flying, doing cancer check up and other issues, I needed time off. And it felt great. Now I feel so much better to continue!

  8. Mariah

    Yesss! I’ve had to step back twice so far in my blogging journey. Sometimes you get so wrapped up in things you burn yourself out.

  9. Lauren B.

    So True & the friend meme totally made this! Everyone needs a break from their hobbies every once in a while to reinforce why we love them!
    xx, Lo {www.rosesandrainboots.com}

  10. Francesca - From Pennies to Pounds

    This is lovely to read. I’ve read your blog before and love it – keep going don’t stop! 🙂 I hope no-one has been nasty in the comments to you!

  11. Lauren

    Enjoy your step back! While I haven’t felt the same about blogging, I totally relate when it comes to promoting…if I ever make enough money I’m totally hiring a VA!

  12. Terryn Winfield

    Great tips. I truly believe you need to have a strong “why” to succeed in working from home, especially when you have children at home. It can be so easy to feel burdened and want to quit, but when you know why you are working, you’ll keep going.

  13. Shann Eva

    I totally can relate! I’ve been experiencing a little writer’s block with my blog lately. When I get to that spot, I also have to remind myself why I started and why I continue. I think you have a great plan!

  14. Jenny

    I feel you, girl! Keep your head up and make sure to take care of yourself.

    xoxo, Jenny

  15. Corsica Nambiar

    I loved reading this and before I decided blogging was something I wanted to do I would get caught up with life and not blog for weeks. Something that I love is how honest you are in this article with life catching up. I wish you luck and look forward to keeping up!

    kissesfromcarolina.com

  16. Tracy

    #1 and #6 are my favorite. Thank you for this great reminder. Very encouraging.

  17. Angie

    I feel like I’m at this point somewhat. For 8 years I’ve blogged without any kind of break… I never stop… Not for more than a day or two, but now I’m working two jobs and I’m exhausted… I don’t want to quit, but I can’t force it.

  18. The Oracle

    Hi Dia! Long time now see. Brilliant post. It’s very encouraging and despite some frustrations, it’s important to press on.

  19. Teresa Caruso

    I can so relate! As much as I love blogging and my career, somedays I literally have zero inspiration or motivation. I usually take a step back and remind myself of all the amazing opportunities that have come my way, and how I should be appreciative of each day doing what I love. It usually helps to remove myself for a second and really reflect.

  20. Justine Y @ Little Dove

    This is so good. I think that for bloggers little breaks or rests now and then are essential. Really, blogging isn’t like others jobs. There’s always something else to do and something to be workign on, plus we don’t have the option of leaving our work at the office, because generally speaking our office is at home! Enjoy your little step back you’re taking!

  21. Adaleta Avdic

    This is a good post, because I’m sure a lot of bloggers get a little stressed out and lack creativity when they’re a block on the mind. It’s important to remember why you love it! xx Adaleta Avdic

  22. Karen Grosz

    Love your honesty about your reasons you blog. My biggest reason is I want to help people live healthy lives. Yes there is so much out there, but small changes can make such a huge difference. Keep going.

  23. Falon

    I think we all feel blogger burn out once in a while, but I like that you remind yourself why you started in the first place. The beauty of a blog is that you can take a step back if you need to, and then come back to it with a fresh perspective.

  24. Portia @ Obsessed by Portia

    I absolutely LOVE This post! Your honesty is a perfection and I can relate completely. Love your list! Sharing!! xoxo

  25. Aarika

    I really enjoyed this post. It is vulnerable and real. You are awesome and super inspiring! Lately, I too have had to take a step back from how much content I create in order to create more balance in other areas of my life. It feels good. It was difficult at first, but now . . . it feels good . . . right. Wishing you balance, creativity, and love!

  26. Dia

    Thanks so much Aarika 🙂

  27. Dia

    That means so much. Much love your way.

  28. Dia

    Thank you <3

  29. Dia

    Thank you Karen 🙂

  30. Jenn Slavich

    Yes my dear, you do have all of the power in the world with your delete button! Sometimes it can be hard to remember that when people are jerks, they’re jerks not because of anything you wrote or did. They’re jerks because there life isn’t great.
    You are a fantastic writer! You have many fans! I’m sorry I haven’t been around to read all of your pieces lately because I too, have been taking a little break.
    Hopefully life will be slowing down soon for you!!
    xoxo

  31. Dia

    Much love your way.

  32. Dia

    Thanks for the kind words lady!

  33. Dia

    So many sweet comments. Thanks Teresa.

  34. Dia

    Thank you 🙂

  35. Dia

    Truth!

  36. Dia

    Thanks for stopping by Tracy 🙂

  37. Dia

    Exactly. And your blog rocks lady.

  38. Dia

    I really appreciate that Corsica 🙂

  39. Dia

    Thanks Jenny!

  40. Dia

    Jenn you always brighten my day <3

  41. Dia

    I really appreciate that Shann.

  42. Dia

    Thanks!

  43. Dia

    Yeah it’s not the writing I’m feeling overwhelmed with it’s all the other stuff.But to be successful it goes hand in hand. So I’m making time to work on other stuff.

  44. Dia

    Thanks love. Not on this post. The comments have been so supportive.

  45. Dia

    Right sometimes you just want to write and not all the other stuff.

  46. Dia

    Exactly.

  47. Dia

    I am wishing you so much health and healing. I was reading out your follow ups and you are inspiring

  48. Dia

    These comments are reminding me about the community I love. Thank you

  49. Dia

    That is what I’m doing Cori. Instead of twice a week I’m posting once a week while I deal with things in my personal life and working on other areas of the blogging thing.

  50. Dia

    Thank you so much for the kind words and F.R.I.E.N.D.S for life.

  51. Dia

    Thank you Valerie!

  52. Dia

    Thanks Georgiana! 🙂

  53. Dia

    Thank you Erica!

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