The fantasy of the Disney Prince is long gone for us millennial women instead we get Mr. Not so Tinder, Fuckboy and the Catfish.
As more people have gravitated to searching for a mate online, expectations and success have seemed to decrease as far as I can tell.
Busy with being trying to pay off student loans, make time for friends, start a side hustle, hit the gym, call grandma at least once a week and God knows what else, we can only seem to locate romance online.
While there are the occasional happy endings (I personally know a few married couples who met of free dating apps) there are a lot of toads to wade through to get to a prince or hell just a guy that isn’t a total creeper.
I have been there and I am glad I’m not now! Here are some thoughts girls have online dating:
Here are 8 thoughts girls have online dating:
Getting to know people is so exhausting.
Maybe we are just so used to instant gratification but having to regurgitate, what I do for a living, where I’m from, what I like to do for fun and the little joys and tragedies that make me who I am, to 5 random dudes a day is exhausting! The predictive text on my phone knew that following “I’m the marketing…” next words are “director at a commercial real estate company and a freelance writer” without me typing it. This is why so many people go back to their ex’s because they can avoid all the mundane life story factoids….
I’ve heard more friend say, “Why can’t they just know these things about me?”
I’m way less shallow in person.
It’s been scientifically proven that online dating gives people the impression of more options in the dating world and causes them to be more selective in who they choose to engage with on dating apps.
There would be moments I’d be quick matching and after the 6th or 7th no I’d think, “I would have probably talked to him at the bar.” But since I was shopping online for a potential mate I wanted the best deal swiping can buy.
Is this really all that’s out there?
While you can feel overwhelmed by the amount of choices, it doesn’t make them good choices. You’ve scanned through 15 different singles in your area and you aren’t attracted to a single one. A lot of studies have assumed that the large amount of options have made us picky on who we consider for a mate but let’s be honest it seems you are swimming in a sea of duds.
Ohh he liked me too! But I’m not going to message him first.
I am all for women empowerment and making the first move but online dating makes it 10 times as scary. What if he only swiped right cause he was drunk, what if he just swipes right on everyone? Etc.
Plus having the cute guy you liked on Tinder message you first is the millennial equivalent of getting a “Will you go out with me? Check Yes or No” note.
Favorite shows: Game of Thrones, The Walking Dead, Breaking Bad…way to be super basic….I wonder if Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal and How to Get Away With Murder make me sound basic?
You see so many profiles and after a while, they just seem like carbon copies.
Oh, you like Game of Thrones? So does everyone with access to HBO! You just want to see one profile that makes you feel like you’ve met a kindred spirit. Then you turn it on yourself…is my profile a carbon copy of all the other girls on here?
Really that’s the picture you’re going with?
Be it a picture of him flipping the camera the bird, a photo of him in the world’s most embarrassing Halloween costume, or standing with 7 hooters servers… it feels like some guys are just trying to turn women away.
It’s like, “Seriously are you even trying? Is this a joke account?”
Why does he look like a different person in each picture?
There is no logical reason for a guy to look like a different person in each of his photos. You don’t want to like that…you don’t know what you’re getting.
Which is a recent one, not to be shallow but no one is swiping right and left based on your list of favorite books.
His profile says his ideal girl should have a fashion sense and be able to run in heels. What the fuck am I running from?
Statements like these are almost so off-putting they are intriguing. Is he a spy? Is he planning to kill me but wants a chase first. Is he a vampire? Are you going to try to dress me? Are you trying to be the next Kimya?
Face it my fellow millennials, while our parents have bad dating stories we will have to tell future generations about our disasters in swiping.
Now you tell me:
Have you ever online dated?
How did it go?
What’s the worst story you have or have heard?
What’s the craziest thing you’ve seen on a profile?